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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello all, I’m sure this topic come up a lot here. Well, I’ve been with my guy almost 2 years, we have a good relationship, and we enjoy sex / exploring our desires. I see him on weekends only. I love him dearly. I try not to think he would ever stray, but he has a lot of girl friends. That’s okay, but there is this one in particular. He’s been hanging out a lot more one-on-one with a co-worker / friend ever since she has become single. Apparently, he sees her as “a little sister”, and tries to be there for her since her break-up because she’s sloppy drunk when single. Look, I feel bad for her situation, but it sure doesn’t make me happy to see her Facebook posts declaring my guy was out with her. At dinner. At art openings. At whatever. During the work week. I have met her a while ago. Seemed nice, but definitely a party girl. My guy and her like to tease each other though, she even calls him her “work boyfriend”. Hey, I’ve been trying my best to deal with it. It’s really hard not to wonder if he’s more attracted to her. It’s really hard not to feel like he’s bonding better with some other girl, and spending more time with her than me. It’s hard not to think that he could have strayed and I wouldn’t have a clue! I’ve even asked him if anything is going on. “She’s like the little sister I never had, remember?” he would say. “Don’t worry about it”.My guy treats me well when we’re together. We go out to dinner and openings too. He has been open and active in my suggestions for improving various parts of our relationship. I guess deep down, I feel threatened by her because of their time together. We talked about it, I thought it was resolved, but he’s out with her again tonight! Daggers to my brain!I want him to have friends and I can’t tell him to stop hanging out with her, but I’m seriously going bonkers! Our efforts to include her in our date plans fail because she won’t come out on the weekends when I’m in town. I haven’t had the opportunity to see her in months. But he’s seen plenty of her. My stomach churns and flips and fears I will get dumped for somebody else. My near polar opposite. The "loose" drunk one.Please throw some encouraging words my way! I think he’ll get upset if I broach the subject again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): You can tell him to go out with her less xxx
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