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writes:so my boyfriend has hurt me in the past in terms of flirting with women, he tells them that he wants to be with them, calls them baby, asks them if he can come over, wants to get stuff for them and more, (never had sex with them though that i know)! each time it happens he says he is sorry and that he will change but the thing is he never does! Now after it happened again i told him that i dont think that i can continue this relationship, he said that he was sorry and this time he is really going make an effort to change but the thing is i just do not believe him i cannot be in a relationship where i have to be constantly worrying if he is going to do it again, he says that he loves me and really wants this relationship to work, but if someone loves someone why would they do something like that to them? when ever i try to talk to him about it he does not want to hear about it he just says that it is in the past and that we should just forget about it, but how can i? i have never done anything thing to him! what would you do in my situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Id refuse to listen to any more of his rubbish and leave him x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 March 2010):
Move on. He won't change, and he's failed you on several occasions now. Time to move on to someone who is better.
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reader, nikkipooh187 +, writes (29 March 2010):
 If he hasnt change yet then he isnt going to...i'm in the same boat as u but i'm being told constantly that its because of me thats he's doing it but then he tells me that i'm doing everything right as far as our relationship goes so honestly u should just leave its his loss its really only so much u can take
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Maybe, you could give him one last chance and if he does it again , you will leave him.
He is a born serial flirter and you either accept and tolerate his actions or you leave if he cannot change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me. People can't get too many chances, because it looses the effect. He simply doesn't take it seriously and doesn't realize he has run out of chances. This time it will be better? It should have never happened again the FIRST time you told him. He has used up his chances and it's time to give him the boot. He will not change.
Only give people ONE chance. After that, if they screw up, they didn't live up to your expectations and probably never will. Give them more chances and they think they can get an unlimited amount of chances, and will hurt you over and over and over. Why should he change when he can keep hurting you and you always take him back?
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