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writes:I am so confused. I am in love with someone that hurt me. He broke up with me and now he is back and wants to work things out. I love him so much but during the break-up I saw a side to him that I didn't like and could possibly never forget. Should I just leave him and if so how do you find the strength to walk away? He proposed to me. HELP!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hi
You need to realize that you have seen a side that is in him and would always be. It would take something like what has happened between yourll previously to bring that side out of him again. I dont think that you wanna be in a relationshio like that where you have to be scared of what you do and say or else you would see that "beast - like" side in him.If this guy has hurt you before then whats stopping him from doing it again? I am one to believe that people deserves a second chance (only if you can see that they truly deserve one) so it is up to you to decide,Is that side likely to come out again or is it burried? Think carefully and decide.
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reader, Angel dust  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 hi dear, its good that although you love this person , you werent blind and ignored something that you didnt like. If you have serious doubts about marriage its important that you dont rush things up thinking that they might patch up the problem.In Fact i would talk to him about the marrage thing and for now i would refuse. In the mean time you can talk to him about what you saw and ask him why he acted like that while you were on break. Depends what he did as if he did something that would reflects his character and you might end up suffering if you stayed with him like example violence then i would think it seriously to stay with him or break up ... and i guess u would already know the answer.
good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Hi,
What is it you saw you did'nt like? is he having problems with drugs, addiction, other women?? what??
I would not jump into anything like a proposal till you are sure you can live with him with whatever problem he has can it be fixed??
It is hard to advice when you don't say what the problem is i am assuming here it is some form of addiction and if that is the case then you need to get him help before you contemplate on agreeing to any life with him if it is not that then sort out this by talking and talking!!
By doing this allsorts of things can be rectified we sometimes forget just a good old natter can uncover a multitude of sins so TALK TO ONE ANOTHER!!
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