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writes: - hubby is having an emotional affair..The girl start flirting...sharing jokes and questions about herselF i.,e my bad and good habits...beautiful tfhing on my faceher familY matters and issues even her secrets...ask for hnelp for every family prdoblem...my hubby thinks he is victim of selfless and true love because sex is no invovle but i think he is also sexualy attrectfed.girl is receiving his love feelings and says i have no problem with ur love but u r just my friend..,theyg are working from 4 years....he doesn't want to leave me but says he has n.o control and wants my help...wants to leave but remain texting til sleeping...he gaves .me option to stay or go....i love him too much...has a 6 years old baby....plZ help i want to make him feel girl is emotionaly traping her til her commitment....i feel loveles...worthles...hopeles....even feel used..?i want to love him but can't...but iwant to save my marriage...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Your husband is in a "fog" right now where he feels a drug-like high every time he thinks of the other girl. It will be hard to reason with him about this. Betrayed spouses often do just leave, precisely because it's so hard to communicate with a wayward spouse who is getting such a huge dopamine charge from their affair. Your absence would communicate a lot to him though: a sense of loneliness or loss, especially if you don't think his "friend" will go further with their relationship.But one step you might take is to make a long list of the emotional highs the two of you have shared in the past to break through the fog in his mind and make him remember that he can feel good about you too. Remind him of all the good things from the past he will be throwing away if you go. Tell him you're willing to work on saving the marriage and get things back to a good state. Hopefully he will agree to marriage counseling so that a professional can help you work this out.
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