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writes:Hey guys need some sound advice here..going mad - thanksFirst - have had no period am 3 days late - 3 negative pee tests, went to doctor today got her to take my blood so playing the waiting game on that one. Doc also got a negative on the pee sample. I have pregnancy symptoms still and am peeing a lot and tired all the time. Doc told me to hold out for another week and we will re-check for pregnancy..bloods have been sent off to check for it.Second, boyf has suddenly disappeared and dumped me JUST before this all came out in the wash. We had different libidos - and it became a problem..He won't pick up his phone at all or reply etc. has cut all contact and find it v unfair considering he knows how I lost a baby in a previous pregnancy and am v scared of a repeat. Why has he vanished? What is he SO scared of? He told me he wanted a baby prior and so do I..but its like as if we have made it happen but he has disappeared and not said why..I guess he just needs some time alone but again I don't find it v fair what he is doing.Third, there is an age gap which I thought is a good thing, this attracted me to him cos he is older. Im 28 he is 49. His ex really hurt him in the past and faked a pregnancy. I am not faking and yet I am prepared to bring him along to show him for himself and yet he disappeared still - why?? Any advice on what I can do to resolve this mess...have no choice but to ignore him so have been..but am hurt cos I feel so alone and this is the time when I need him the most. Thanks..How long will it be if he comes around?? - he told me you will lucky if I contact you in a few weeks time..I was upset cos I mean why the games but that was the last I really heard from him..He told me to don't come back but then followed up a txt with u may see me in a few weeks time if ur lucky..but I don't know what to make of all this, he really hurt me a week prior to the sudden dump by saying, he had a better offer! - he told me afterwards that it was all 'made up and stuff' but it really hurt me a lot..cos we r not officially boyf/girlf he assumed I saw him as a sex friend..I dont so am still upset that he could thinks so low of me..I have been seeing him as a boyf for 9 months. I have never and still dont see him as sex friend - I love him..anyway sorry to rant..its getting to me a bit..and nope dont want to be pregnant to get him back as such either...what am I missing in this story??
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reader, AnythingForHim  +, writes (17 March 2009):
I ve never been in this situation but I have a lot of expierience in men and know a lot of people who been thru this situation. Don't stress out about it keep calm find out the results and take one step at a time. Obviouly he's not man enough. It seems like he's getting cold feet and he might be scared he will not be a good father or something. My best advice is to try to convince him to sit down and talk like two grown people and try to work out yall differences and find out wat each person wants and how to resolve it.
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reader, AnythingForHim +, writes (17 March 2009):
I ve never been in this situation but I have a lot of expierience in men and know a lot of people who been thru this situation. Don't stress out about it keep calm find out the results and take one step at a time. Obviouly he's not man enough. It seems like he's getting cold feet and he might be scared he will not be a good father or something. My best advice is to try to convince him to sit down and talk like two grown people and try to work out yall differences and find out wat each person wants and how to resolve it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): My advice? If you are not pregnant then move on. At his age he should be mature enough to handle a relationship and not punish you for what his ex did to him. Obviously he cant. If it hasnt happened yet, it never will. Good luck...Jezebel
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