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*eccamega
writes:I'm 23 and was dating my bf for nearly a year and everything was going well. Then one day he calls me out of the blue and says he wants to breakup. I was in shock, we hadn't been fighting at all. He said tat he wasn't attracted to me anymore and didn't know why. It was so surreal, I didn't know what to say and I hanged up. How could he not be attracted to me anymore, just completely out of the blue? I messaged his friend for answers. She said that he's always fickle and just wants to be single. I got a message back from him, blaming eberything on me. He said I never talk and I have low self esteem. Neither of these things are true. I tried calling him and messaging him, but he didn'y answer onece. We've been split up for 3 months. He hasn't contacted me since and vice versa. Should I contact him? Was I cheated on? I'm so mad he didn't even do it face to face. I've got no answers and no closure. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): Thats sooo mean!:O i bet you was so angry! i think you should move on and forget about the looser. hes not worth it. If he cant even b a**ed to get in cantact with you why should you bother with him. Theres obviously something not right how he did it out of the blue. I say move on with your life and find someone better :]
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reader, meccamega +, writes (27 September 2010):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks he was really cruel about it and it was completely out of the blue. It really sounds like I was cheated on, it would explain the odd behaviour. It hurt like hell, I lost me best friend. If he ever does contact me, theres no way I'll ever take him back
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 You shouldn't contact him, you may have been cheated on. If it was out of the blue and he's known for wanting to be single and moving around from girl to girl... or, maybe he just got bored? Definitely don't contact him. You will probably never get the closure you want and contact will just make your wounds open up more and more. Why kick a dead horse? Who knows? Who cares?
I would mostly spend time feeling LUCKY AS HELL that you got out of the relationship with that loser. I think it is time to get out your anger through building up yourself. Go to the gym, get a saucy haircut, take kick boxing, do volunteer work, take a trip! Getting over guys like this involves giving yourself a victory party for ditching a jerk who would dates you for almost a year and then has the nerve to break up with you over the phone? Blames everything on you (bullshit)? But, he may have had a point about the self esteem. You definitely need a confidence boost!
Put your anger into something and then eventually you will thank this guy for a lesson well learned. You will find someone who makes you much happier and this guy will be sorry his missed out on you. The best closure you can get is doing something new with your life and opening a new door.
Those are my thoughts, at least... good luck!
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