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writes:I dated my daughters father for five years off and on, we ve broke up but always manage to get back together. Now its been a year and a half and we have not gotten back together. He's been dating the same person ever since we broke up. I've meet wonderful people but always seem to push them away whenever I feel like its getting to serious in hopes that m y daughters father and i will get back together. . I tried so hard to keep myself occupied so I can get over him. But it doesn't work, he's a real good father and always around for our daughter. Every time he comes around I think about us... I feel like I made a very big mistake breaking up with him... ( all I want was for us to be a family) but his mom was too much in our relationship. . To the point that every time me and him argued she would tell me I m being to hard on her son... she would pay all his bills while I struggled on my own to work and pay my own bills. At the time it was unbearable, but now I feel like Ive grown to be more patient. I ask him about two weeks ago to lets try again. He told me No we are not compatible, and its hard for me to believe. He doesn't want to be with me, its killing me inside.. to see him with someone else just breaks my heart even more.. please give me some help on how to cross this hurdle. ... sincerely emotionally drained.....:( I'm so tired of crying and sleep less nights its going on two years...
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reader, holden on +, writes (30 September 2010):
holden on is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell know changes have been made as far as me and my daughters
Father.. but I feel like I'm starting to accept it.. slowley but surely. I Will be okay. I have been so blessed..
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reader, holden on +, writes (26 September 2010):
holden on is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again your advice is greatly appreciated. .. even though its heartbreaking.
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reader, holden on +, writes (26 September 2010):
holden on is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for taking time to listen too read and try to help me
Just like you I feel like my friends would never understand. It made me cry to read your reply because. . I see there's really no hope for us. I gotta face reality, and that's hard as ever......:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): Hey hunny, I feel your pain. Im sort of in the same situation as you.....my ex who broke up with me 2 years ago and I still love him. Even though I moved on, met someone else and had a baby. I still wanna be with my ex. Im single now (me and baby's dad broke up)and its worse than ever, my ex has a new girl, loves her to bits, doing really fun things togther while Im here with my baby and feeling lonely......I sometimes wish he was the father just so I could still have that connection to him. So I suppose in that sense you are lucky. My ex would never even realise that I still loved him its been that long. It is absolutely heartbreaking to see him with another woman. Ive had many sleepless nights over it. And whats harder is that I cant even talk to my friends about how I feel because they wouldnt get why Im still in love with an ex. So I have come to accept the fact that this is my life now. My son, and making him happy and giving him a good life. Love can come second. I know I will never get back with my ex, and by the sound of it yours has moved on too. You need to let it go. Obviously you need to maintain some sort of relatiopnship for your daughter, but where any chance of reconciliation is concerned, I think you need to accept that its over. Easier said than done I know, but once you have crossed that acceptance stage and come to realise that this is your life now, then moving on will become so much more easier for you.
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