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*umof4Alone
writes:Well my life is in total tatters right now. I have 4 children one on the way. 3 children were from a previous relationship. I met my partner 2 years ago we clicked straight away, I was taking the pill but still got pregnant, we kept the baby and made a go of things. We have had some wonderful times together. We had something special. Im his first serious girlfriend so he is saying how does he know if what we have is as special as i think it is. At christmas he proposed and we talked of getting married in November we said as soon as we was married the coil would be removed and we would try to have a baby. Thing is I got pregnant with it in. Of course we was both shocked but I thought we was strong and would get through it.He asked me to abort which was out of the question. Anyway I'm 3 months along now and he still never calmed down and dumped me last night saying he no longer loves me. Never saw it coming as he was so sweet and loving. I was in an abusive relationship before this one broken arm cheek ribs are just a few of what i went through. He started to blame me though saying i deserved it because i stayed with him. I was scared. Why has he done this? walked away from me and his son and the one on the way. how will i manage, i feel so low.
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (12 February 2009):
 I think the first thing you need to do is to look after yourself and your kids. Sometimes the last one to see what is going to happen is the other partner. Many years ago I was dumped by my then wife and had no idea it was going to happen. Your guy sounds as if he is scared but that is no excuse.
I'm sure you are a nice girl and you deserve better. Take care and don't worry too much about the relationship. If he leaves you then he was not the guy you thought that he was.
Good luck.
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reader, steffy-boo x +, writes (12 February 2009):
 well it isnt right that he blamed you for staying with him i mean if he loves and he proposes. if it was me i would think he loves me and proposing mean he isnt going to leave but he did so he has no right to blame it on you also carring his child. i suggest you try to get some support being you will be single mother he doesnt short out the act because the last thing you want it the strain throughtout your pregnancy even when it is bornif he loves you truly he will come back it may be that he is going through a phase both men and woman get this it is perfectly normal but never should u feel scaredi know i dont know you but i really hope it work out a di am sure you have some one special looking over you to.loves steffy-boo
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