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writes:I feel like the dumbest person ever I got so drunk. That I ended up having sex with a guy and did not use a condom and he came in me! We immediately went got the plan B bill and I'm so afraid of pregnancy hiv/aids or stds.. please help me someone. He say he is married and never slept with any1 else other than wife and he had bn tested 3yrs ago.. I'm so afraid cause I'm also married don't want to contract nothing to my husband please help I'm beyound dumb and I. Will never drink again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): You've got a good six months of waiting before you can know for sure that you are clear of all diseases. So unless you think you can explain not sleeping with your husband for that long, you will need to come clean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks soo much for every1 replies. You hv made me feel a little better.. I hv an appointment set 2morro for std hiv/aids testn. I'm still scared I'm praying that God will help me on this 1 but I read tht u hv to keep gettn tested for up to 2 yrs to totally be outthe clear and tht worries me the most. As far as confessing to him.. tht won't never happen.. he is the reason that game me the will power to cheat! I kno two wrongs don't make it right but I don't feel so betrayed now.. unless I get a disease I will never tell him
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): "He say he is married and never slept with any1 else other than wife and he had bn tested 3yrs ago."
Most people have not idea and say all kinds of shit that isn't accurate about their status. He doesn't know his wife's status, and she clearly doesn't know his.
Go to your physician, get tested, and get HIV testing now, and in 3 months, and in 6 months, and in 90 months, and in 1 year. You should also get the partner who you had sex with get tested for HIV, Syphilis, Hepatitis B, Hepatitis C, HPV, and you need to get tested for all this as well.
Use condoms with your husband so you won't infect him if you turn out to be HIV positive...think it can't happen, well, I know someone it happened to and they are dead. Your husband needs to know, so he can protect himself. Vaginal sex is not a high risk activity, but bottom line is that you don't know.
So, tell your husband the truth, he will need to make some decisions.
Get pap smear done, if you haven't had one this past year, and repeat in a year. If you have HPV, then you will undoubtedly infect your spouse at some point.
You may contract herpes, you will know if you have an outbreak.
That is the first part.
"Will never drink again!"
Really, what about the next time you feel like you did and you are offered a drink. Really think that you won't drink again, think again. You don't drink for no reason.
http://www.lanarkleedsaa.org/pages/aboutaa/are_you_an_alcoholic.htm
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Do not have sex with your husband without a condom.
Now go get tested and confess ALL to your OBGYN.
If you and your husband do not use condoms, then you need to confess to him too. Unfortunately, there may be consequences that affect his health too, so protect him with honesty.
Even if the man you slept with is healthy-you want to give your husband the peace of mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): I know how you feel.I did it because I felt neglected by my husband and my heart cried to be held and loved. I never did it again though. If we can't make mistakes we can't make anythang. Try not to fret. Everythang will be fine. Get a pregnancy test and rest your mind.Go to the walkin clinic and see a nurse practitioner and get a IgG blood test and a urine. What you need is comfort and not to feel worse than you do.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Go to your doctor and get tested. That's what you must do. Then wait for results and deal with what may be. Until then, no need to freak out, but don't have sex with your husband until you know for sure whether or not you are pregnant or have an STI!
My bet is you're ok though, you took the plan B, and he said he'd been tested and is clean. You can't trust him, but at least that's something.
Did you get his number in case there would be something coming up in the tests?
If you are pregnant, and don't want to reveal anything to your husband, have an abortion in secret. Your doctor is not allowed to say anything to anyone.
Travel away for a bit now if you need an excuse to not have sex with your husband, like go see some family or friends, while you wait for the results.
I think you need to wait at least two weeks before a pregnancy test can be taken.
You'll fix this, just take a deep breath, calm down and take one thing at a time.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Go to your doctors and get tested. That is all you can do. Until your test results come back dont sleep with your husband without a condom.
And perhaps consider coming clean to your husband that you cheated, regardless of whether you will drink again or not, you still cheated so it is a question of whether you can live with the guilt and keep lying to your husband, or whether you come clean and deal with the aftermath.
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