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writes:Okay so I'm stuck. I got with my ex Tyrone about two and a half years ago. We didn't go to th same school but we made sure we saw eachothrr at least twice a week. We weren't exactly. Comfortable around eachothrr but we really cared for eachothrr. We were eahoher first loves. We lasted for quite a while and we were really happy. Alhough we talked to eachothrr about it we never had a sexual relationship it wasn't like that I think we just weren't ready. Towards the end of the relationship I started to notice another guy that attended my school and hung around with all me friends. He seemed like a much better match than tyrone at the time. I didn't really go to many partys at the time and I'd barely ever drank I wasn't into that stuff. I talked to my best friend rachel about it all and she reckons I just don't know how to be happy and o shouldn't put mine and tyrones relationship in jeperty just to take a chance on alfie. The new guy. Me and Tyrone talked about it and I told him I needed a break to clear my head and get eveything sorted out because I wasn't happy and needed to work it out on y own. Two days later I went to a mates party and we all had a few drinks. I had a few too many and passed out early in the night. I woke up and everyone was egging me on to make out with this guy alfie. I barely new him at all but my drunkness took over and so I did. We ended up having sex , which was both of our first times. He asked to out and now we've been together for close to two years. I don know if it was a mistake or not. I never got a full chance to cosnider my options and now I feel like I've wasted all this time being trapped in a relationship that I don't even know that I wanted. I still love Tyrone I never stopped loving him. But he doesn't feel the same abot me anymore and our friends hate eachothrr and I don't fit in with his crowd and he doesn't fit in with mine. I love him and I want to be with him I want to see how things could have worked out if I had stayed with him. He's he type of person that once you've been drawn in your addicted. He's amazing and he's so funny and he cares but isn't over emotional. Then here's alfie. The perfect person. He's very emotional he has a full time job he makes the effort to see me everyday and puts me before everyone. But then there's he other problem of me and his family being at war. They don't lien him in a serious relationship so they trid to savatage it and the police were involved it's crazy. So we don't get alog. Me and alfie are like bestfriends he treats me like a princess he seriouslly loves me more than anything I've ever seen it scares me because I lobe him but here's someone else that I can't get over bt know I should. It's so hard I don't know what to do. Me and alfie have a amazing relationship were usually happy but there's so much stuff in our lives that it's not always easy but that's part of being in a relationship I guess. But then here's Tyrone the love of my life that I stufed up our relationship with because of a drunken mistake. But was or a mistake or was it fate ? Anyway alfie is a very over protective guy and he refuses to listen to a word I say abot the subject. He says if I talk to Tyrone I'll loose him butni don't want to loose him. But I need to talk to tyrone because I can't not have him in my Liffe anymore it doesn't feel right. So I've been sneaking around and talking to him behind Alfies bak and it's killing me I hate havin to lie I can't keep doingthis anymore. I know I need to make a decision but I don't knwo what way to go , I know it seems easy but it's not. Do I stay with alfie the guy that puts me before everone and treats me the way everygirl in the world wants to be treated but not be able to have freedom or be able to see tyrone and never know what could have been ?Or do I take another chance and break it off with alfie and confront tyrone not knowing what his reaction will be and loose alfie forever ? I know nobody can possibly ansmwer that quesion. But I wish I could just know what the outcome is going to be both ways. Please help me with this someone. What I really want to do is talk to tyrone about it all but I can't without going behind alfies back and I hate doing that. Seriously someone please help me I'm so stuck. Please
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (11 January 2011):
You need to take a break with Alfie, and just clear your head. Give some serious thought to who you want, who has the best qualities etc. Maybe you'd be better off alone? Just try get both of them out of your head and just sort your thoughts out. Sometimes time is the only thing that can make your decisions, just slow down. I hope this helps.
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