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*intintan
writes:I have been with my partner for just over 2 yrs. we are living together, I have mate his family but he's not mate mine as I come from abroad. I have recently found out that he has been taking mephedrone and the new drug (cannot remmeber what its called) behind my back, I was very dissapointed n feel let down, at the same time also I caught him several times on the pc with photos of nude girls some porn which I think are prety filthy. All this has been going on for the last 6 months. It has made me feel cheated decieved in a way, I no longer trust him at all, I am paranoid about things, I am a size 8 and now have issues with my confidence. I feel like am not good enough for him sexualy.We had a big argument and he has asked me for a last chance and promised he would change. About the drugs he said he desposed the drugs but dont believe him, when I inssisted he finaly said he kept a little bit. We had plans of starting a family and am realy confused, I agreed to another chance but things are no longer the same sex wise, I am not feeling detouched from him for some reasons, dont enjoy sex as i used to but feels like he is a stranger.speaking to his friends n sis it seems his past has been full of drugs, he said its something he is interested to do before we settle for family. Inspite of all the unknown risks why would one go try such things? its a question I never get to understand why. My background is from a different culture culture and never realy experimented in that sort of things apart from alcohol. should I stay or should I go? Please help:-(
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reader, tintintan +, writes (12 May 2010):
tintintan is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have packed my things and left my partner of 2 years, we been having problems after he started taking drugs and porn which i caught him serval times. After my previous post, I found a link on his pc history that he posted a profile looking for sex swings with biasexual couple or both, the disappointing thing is he had asked for me to give him another chance, how can one ever trust any man after such a thing?? I have left him and told him there is no way I would start a family with man on drugs, porn and swinging for sex.....................
thanks to all that responded
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reader, tintintan +, writes (24 April 2010):
tintintan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your response, I guess I was needing some sort of assuarance before I walk out, I convinced I dont need drugs in my relationships, even though he says he has not cheated on me, I just cannot believe him, if he has lied about other stuff what can stop him lying? I have arranged a sexual health screen which he knows why. All in all things are complicated as my bilogical clock is ticking, do you think its selfish to have his child and leave, as I dont mind being a single parent, I have a secure background for my child just need his sperm
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 April 2010):
Leave him. This man is no good at all. And to have a child with this man would be a serious mistake.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 Run, run, and RUN!!!! And don't look back. Stay away from drugs. He's learned to lie, cheat and steal for these drugs. He'll expose you and potential children you have with him to a filthy criminal social scene.
Different cultures have nothing to do with a person's character, and this guy you're interested in has no character and a pretty horrible reputation.
Like I said...RUN!!!!! Move out! start over!
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