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writes:I had a dream about a boy I used to see. I'm in a long term relationship now and I'm happy (I thought). I've always held a soft spot for this previous boy. I don't mean I love him. We were never serious and he could be quite unpleasant to me at times. We finished on bad terms and hadn't spoken in four years. However, since the dream I can't stop thinking about him. Not in a romantic way. Just in a way where I'd love to meet up and have a coffee...and just see him again. I have no idea why I'm thinking like this. I keep having to hold back from contacting him in some way because it's probably a bad idea. What's wrong with me ? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 November 2014):
 It's better if you don't make it bigger than it is. We all grow up and are curious about how others are doing too. There is though, a divide between people's opinions on whether it is okay to catch up with previous lovers. Your dream can highlight what you really want subconsciously. It's normal to look back in life and compare yourself now. If you decide not to contact him, then drop it and move on. It could be because you are worried that you would catch feelings for him again and that's not fair for your husband. If you want to meet him that's okay too. Don't make it such a struggle. You can offer to bring your husband to meet him although I don't think that guy would be interested to meet your husband. At first you can ask your husband if he's okay just you and him alone.
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