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writes:I just want some opinions on whether I have the right to be annoyed with my boyfriend or whether I am being a typical girl and overreacting. Ive been with my partner for almost 3 years and we live together and are both in our mid twenties. The other day I was submitted to hospital for some very intrusive tests but because I was fainting and my blood pressure was too low for them to continue, they sent me home to rest. They told me I shouldnt be left alone as a precaution as would be feeling very weak. So I told my boyfriend all this and when I finally did get home I was feeling very very weak and lightheaded and nauseous and just generally feeling very ill.Now I understand that when someone feels like this and is just led in bed/on the sofa theres not much anyone can do for them except perhaps get them drinks but my boyfriend decided to go out for a meal and to the cinema with some female friends from work. He didnt even text/ring me to see if I was ok. Do I have the right to be annoyed or is it unfair to expect someone to stay at home when their partner is just sleeping??
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Of course you have the right to be annoyed and angry. Does he not think so?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
You went through some intrusive tests, you were fainting so much the doctor sent you home and he said that you should not be left unsupervised at all. You told your boyfriend all this. Knowing all this, he then decided to forget about doctor's orders and go out for a meal with some female friends and then onto the cinema. And to top it off, he didn't call or text, even though he knew all those facts.
I don't think annoyed is quite the emotion I'd be feeling if something like this happened to me. I think I'd be be super pissed off to be honest.
If you'd collapsed, no one would have been there. When you're ill, your partner is supposed to be there. Especially of the doctor says you can't be left alone. This boyfriend of yours is not the knight in shining armour, is he? More like the Tin Can man. I think you'd just discovered a major flaw in your boyfriend, and you need to be angry at him for it. I wouldn't trust someone like this again.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Yes, I think you are right to be annoyed. It does not matter if you were sleeping, or if you did not after all require any assistence.
What matters is that the doctors had said you should NOT be left alone as a precaution, and your boyfriend had been informed about that .
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reader, krunkqueen  +, writes (16 July 2010):
personally i would be very angry and hurt.. your not being a drama queen sweetheart.. if it was the other way around I am sure you would be by his side.. he is an inconsiderate jerk and what the heck is he doing going to the movies with his female co workers when your at home sick?????
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