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writes:I met a man online about 3 months ago. We communicate about every day through whatsapp, skype, facebook messenger, viber, facetime calls, Instagram etc. Sometimes I am realizing when we are texting That it feels if I am talking to a different person. When you text a person daily back and forth you know how they write, how they express themselves, so sometimes we are texting and I automatically question myself, am I talking to “ Dan” or is someone else?! The expressions are different and so other words that he never used to write! I must say that English is not our first language so he admitted to me one time that he uses an app to help to translate. Still it really makes me questioning if when we text is him who is texting or someone else... we are suppose to meet this coming August but this doubt on the texting it’s bothering me sometimes . I asked him again and he said about the translation App again. I need some advice if someone has deal with this same issue: what do you do in this situation? Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2020): Thanks . I am the OP. We skype almost daily and also FaceTime calls. No talking about money . We are suppose to meet in August in Europe where is easy for both of us. We don’t use the translation app all the time, mostly when we don’t understand the meaning of a word or sentence. But when we do skype we talk not type. The style of typing and grammar sometimes is different when we text.. thats why It bothers me sometimes.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 April 2020):
 Go with your gut here.
People don't TYPE differently because they might use different apps, the WORDING might be different. But people might write differently depending on the media they use, email- versus text. For instance my husband uses short sentences, I don't (mostly). Which is why I would send him LONG emails when he was deployed and get much shorter replies. When we text its primarily to check in, check up or pass on info, like grab milk and bread, it's not conversations. So much shorter.
Where is he from? And where are you from? If you communicate in English with each other, and he has to use a translating app HOW do you really see this working out long term?
Also I would perhaps extend the time to meet up a bit.
And yes, YCBS is right in DO NOT send him ANYTHING (especially money or expensive items that he claims he will pay you back for later).
How often do you two Skype?
If he is texting you something on an app and it doesn't sound like him, why not POP on Skype and see him while chatting? Just in case it's because you don't KNOW him that well that the wording is off?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (19 April 2020):
 If it feels "not right", then trust your gut instinct and proceed with great caution, or even back away. I wonder when the first approach for money will come. Whatever you do, do NOT send him any, regardless of how plausible the reason might be.
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