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41-50,
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writes: Not quite sure how to write my question in a nut shell. I have Indian back ground. I associated both men and women for a long time. But I enjoyed men than women, I didnt wanted to show my feelings to the society and cursed myself for my feelings. I met a guy who want to live with me for the rest of my life. But, i wanted to make my family happy and didnt wanted to live with a guy which I consider is difficult. Before the wedding day, i knew that I my marriage with a women will creat a lot of troubles. So, I wanted to stop that happening, but I couldnt. From the day I got marry, I suffered a lot. She is nice and understanding. But, I couldnt foget the guy that i had the last relationship with.Now my wife is in india and im in USA. My ex boy friend lives close by but we dont meet though we phone. I couldnt face to my friends, so now I have no friends. Just talk to my family bcz I have to. I am in between both world, dont know what to do. I am comfortable living and doning any thing with my ex boy, but i dont feel the same way with my wife. Both love me a lot......im not quite sure what to do...
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reader, AnaMarie91 +, writes (18 November 2010):
I can't believe you got married just to save face and make your family happy. If they don't accept you for who you are then screw them! I have a close relationship with my whole family but I still do what I want (tattoos, piercings, drinking, partying, traveling whenever,...etc.) and love whomever i want. It's your life and you only live once. this day, you'll Never get back again and you'll never be able to change what you've said or done today. But, tomorrow is a whole nother adventure. You may think you know whats gonna happen or what you're gonna do but you never know. That's why you need to look forward at things you can change versus looking back at things that'll never change until the day you die. Love and marriage should always be connected. If they're not and you don't love your wife, then don't hold her or yourself back from having true happiness because all women have intuitions that tell us somethings not right or that our lover/husband/wife isn't happy...is it me, is it their wrk...what's wrong...Women will search their brains until they figure out what's wrong. I hope this helps.Don't promise anything you can't deliver.
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