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writes: I've been seeing this girl for a small time and have fallen for her; the only problem is that I am married!I know that I'm a scumbag for wanting my cake and eating it too, but when my lover asked me to leave my wife - as much as wanted to - I couldn't.My lover is the sweestest girl ever and I love her and have strong feelings for her but I can't leave my wife. My lover askes me if I want to be with her, which I do, but my wife was heartbroken so I decided to stay.My lover said that she still wanted to see me but feels hurt and insecure and finds it hard to understand why I am staying with my wife.I have no children! I don't want to hurt either of them anymore but would be heartbroken if I could never see my lover anymore, because she means a lot to me.My wife has found out about my lover twice and now thinks that I have stopped seeing her but I just can't. My lover said that if she found out again that that would be the end of us!I don't know what to do. My lover is so sweet and would never hurt me as I have done her. I believe that she loves me because she has stayed around.I chased after my lover. she never made any motion to me once she found out that I was married. Now all I'm doing is hurting her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2005): My wife says I can have my cake and it too. She does not want sex and I have found love elsewhere. A seperation agreement frees you from legal issues and if all parties agree and are open, then it works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): What your doing is wrong i'm sorry but you can't have it both ways no matter how hard it is if you love your wife then you will have to let your lover go what you have to learn is that we can't always have what we want in life and if you choose to stay with your wife then your lover will have to understand that as well you made a commitment to your wife to love and honor her but your still betraying her.
It would be better to end the relashionship with your lover cause the longer u go on like this the more harder it will get.
Sometimes hard decisions turn out for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2005): Your answer to your problem is located in your second sentence. If you don't divorce your wife then you must drop the homewrecker. You need to screw your own head on straight before you screw anybody else. Speaking of screws it sounds like a few are rattling around in there. Pull yourself together.
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