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writes:What should I do? I have a really awesome (most of the time) boyfriend (lets call him Rob), and recently I've been thinkin that maybe I like someone else (lets call him Fred). And I think because of Fred I got over Rob. I don't want to hurt Rob, but I don't want to lead him on to thinking that I still like him. Should I go ahead and break up with him, and if so how do I do it without feeling mean? Or should I just get over Fred? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice, desta101 I think you might be right about me falling out of love with him. Thanks again!
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reader, RayBones +, writes (29 January 2011):
 Conventional wisdom says to never break up with someone for another. There is way too much that can go wrong, and you will always be thinking to yourself whether or not you made the right decision.
It will place a high burden on Fred without Fred knowing it. He will always be having to match up and be compared and scrutinized.
Only break up with Rob if it's not what you want or if it's bad. analyze that relationship and decide if that's what you want and then move forward from there.
If you want to break up with someone there is no way to do it without being mean. If you want to be merciful make it hard, fast, and don't let him think there is any chance of salvaging the relationship, and crikey, don't tell him about Fred.
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reader, desta101  +, writes (29 January 2011):
I think firstly you need to have a massive think how much *Rob means to you. Also you break up with Rob and fred dose not want any thing to do with you in that way then you mite had ruined some thing really special with rob.
you might be just falling out of love with rob.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): you should break up with your current boyfriend, if you have true feelings for someone else, then you should, and theres no other way of going about it, you have to tell it straight.tell him you like fred, but a little more gentle. , talk with fred first though, see if fred likes you back and is it worth dumping your boyfriend over.goodluck
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