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writes: Um... About three months ago, I meet this really amazing guy... I was just kind of stuck in a rut for 3 years until he came along and I just opened up. I had been in this awful relationship with this guy name Theo. He took my virginity after telling me he loves me... but then left. I never talked to him again and after that I wouldn't just open up to anyone. Then I meet Matthew. He changed my world. I no longer was scared to talk to people... or afraid of what they might think... I was more confident, talkative... I also became physically involved with him. The only other guy I had been with like that. I know its cliche to say this... but I honestly do love him to with all my heart. Well, to get to the problem... yes there is a problem.=) My friends Bianca and Jenisca saw me walking home from my cousin's house this evening. They offered me a ride... and as they were taking me home. Jensica said not to f+*% with him anymore because they were at Biaca's dance and saw him messing with another gurl. And that this gurl that he supposibly messed with... had warts. I know Matthew in the past to mess around on the gurls that he was with... and would keep them around just for a good F**%. But did I also mention that he gave me something... STD.But he had gotten that before me. Luckly its taught me to wrap it up and it was curable. We also went through a miscarrige together. And he tells me when he's been in town... But then I called him and he said that he was in Victoria this whole week... and he never came down... and that we he did come down he spent almost every moment with me. He swares that he didn't. I don't want to be the gurl that listens to gossip... but I don't need to be cheated on because I know I can find so much better... I know I'm worth more. Then now I'm afraid that I might be pregnant again. I'm also scared I might loose it... Please Help me... What do I do?!?! Thanks
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Hang on...this is complicated! You say you maybe pregnant (again) but aren't you supposed to be using condoms after the last STD??? You cannot possibly tell for sure if this guy is cheating or not, but you can protect yourself against STD's and pregnancy until you find out. Surely you wouldn't be wanting to have a baby with a man that you are unsure about? Your mates might just be bitchy gossips, but there maybe truth in something they say. This guy gave you an STD, you have been through a miscarriage with him and you say in your own words that he kept girls dangling in the past just for the sex. He sounds like a player, but no one can be too sure. Usually the truth will out in the end, but I am more concerned about your approach to this - it is ok to make a mistake, but it is not ok to make the same mistakes over and over again. I understand that it must be horrible to have been dumped by your ex, but that shouldn't start a pattern where you accept no better treatment from future men. It is time to take charge of your body, and mind, and realise that you have a fundamental need to protect your own health, and long term well-being by using contraception if you have sex with this guy. You were cured of one STD but there are lots of STDs that cannot be cured. I cannot tell you if your man cheated or not, but from what you tell me he doesn't sound like the best person in the world. You clearly have self confidence issues related to the way you were treated by your ex. You say that you know you can find much better, but you also say this man brought you out of your shell. You shouldn't be dependent on him for your self esteem, and you just have to like yourself enough not to messed about with.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 June 2006):
 dear reader the only thing i can say is you need to sit down and talk to you b/f things clearly need to be aired and he needs to be honest with you. no-one should listen to gossips but i knwo what its like you can't help their words just roll around inside your head and each time you think of them things seem so much worse if you let this carry on your going to drive youself insane so speak to him A.S.A.P tell him your worries he knows your past does he really want to put you through all that again if his a decent bloke i wouldn't have thought so. don't bottle things up and if you are pregnant again you don't need this added stress. so my advice to you is go and get a test TODAY! and talk to him about all this before anyhting else gets said.i wish you all the best of luck and if you like i would like you to keep me posted good luck xxx
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