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writes: There is this guy I really really really like. He likes me, along with two other girls. What should I do? He used to like me a lot before we stopped talking because of something that happened. (I overheard something and stopped talking to him as much then but we used to.) Reply to this Question
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reader, ChibiMagicianG +, writes (13 June 2006):
ChibiMagicianG is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I did talk to him that why I posted that he liked me and he still had feelings for me ever since we stopped talking because he told me... and I do think he needs to grow up a bit. Gah, I hate asking this, but know anyway I could forget about him?
Ah, and thinks so much for your responces... Made me realize somethings and understand some stuff.
..and about the thing I overheard; onces me and him were having our little moments- holding hands and just acting like a couple would. (We still weren't going out. He was, and still is, shy afterall.) And his friends called him over and asked him why he was with me and if he liked me.... And the thing I overheard was 'Hell no'. I told him when we finally talked after a year and he said he felt really bad because he didn't mean it like that. The only reason he said it was because his 'friend' that asked him didn't like me and the guy wouldn't stop bothering any of us. Thats when he told me that he did really like me but since I got distant, he started to not like me. He said he's 'moved on' but his feelings for me aren't really gone.
I want to hold on to that little bit of hope... But at the same time I really don't because I've been hurt enough and I don't want to risk it... Which is why I asked for help. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Wow, yeah, grab some self respect!!!!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Good grief...grab hold of your self respect and run away with it FAST! You don't want to be 'one of his girls', you want to be 'his only girl'. If he is a popular fella with the pick of the bunch then he isn't going to treat you so nice, and besides you should want to be the sole focus of his attention and not settle for anything less! If you did date and had an argument then he would be running off after the other girls anyway. Boyfriends are supposed to make you feel special and this boy clearly isn't going to do that. Find someone who likes you, and you alone!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Well if hes got the pick of the girls, he's probably deciding which one of you to date first!! But if you like him break the ice and talk to him. But its likely that you stoppped talking before so he may want to date one of the others hes interested in. I dont know if he likes you only you will know that, but at least try talking to him and see how he feels and see if he wants to hang out if thats what you want. If not hang out for someone else, least you will know where you stand if you start chatting to him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Fantastic.
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reader, angelickisses420 +, writes (13 June 2006):
Gurl... just dump him... Move on... You don't need a guy that goin to put you on the back burner. You should be the only gurl for him... and no one else. He shouldn't even have gurls on a string so he's never dateless. You deserve better... you really could do better then him. Trust me! Just don't look back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): God I know what your going through! I have had the same problem for years! I really loved this guy, and he said he loved me too. But I would go to school and hear about alll the other girls he was calling. So I asked him about it and that pushed us apart. So then he got a girlfried for almost a year, still continued to call me and tell me how he felt about me. Now it could be that he likes you a lot and he feels like your too good for him so he is keeping the other girls on a string so he will never be lost for a date. Or you could be one of the girls on a string.. Or maybe this guy is just not grown up yet. This is not an easy situation to be in I really feel bad for you. No matter what don't put yourself down and never think that anyone else is better than you. Don't throw away all other options, let yourself fall for other people too. Maybe the timeing is not right for you and this guy now, but who knows what could happen in the future? And don't let him think that you are waiting around for him, because if he thinks he's lost you then maybe it will change his attitude. Sometimes you don't know what you've got until its gone.
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