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writes:To give you the stroy so far....http://www.dearcupid.org/question/some-cracks-have-appeared-in-our-relationshipis-she.html(... I knocked on the door and when she answered a few minutes later she was very harsh towards me and in her pj‘s. I noticed the bedroom door had been closed and a teddy bear which I had never seen was on the lounge also. I asked her to explain and she threatened if I didn’t leave she would call the police, which was really strange. She denies anything was happening, claims they were having drinks and chatting, nothing more. Though the guys is a bit of a self proclaimed ladys man.) Today I rang her, as she had said she wanted to talk previously after that night.The story she has given is that I complete saw what I wanted to see.She claims, the guy had gone to the bathroom as he was about to leave when I showed up which is why the door was half open, (the bathrrom is an ensuite) she closed it and told him to stay there as she didnt want me to hit him (the door was locked she said too. She was wearing trackpants not pj's and now because of my email she is worried what her friends will think. She had messaged me saying haha you lose and said she changed the password but now she asked if I changed it as she cant log on.She has kept copies too and asked if I had been back to her house since that night. I have been out of town and or work. Im worried she is accussing me of something more then the emails.As I said, I had started to cook dinner when she said she forgot and made no mention of him coming over for a drink. What else should I have thought..Unfortunatley i sent an email form her account to her friends telling them what happened that night. I also email the guy from my account to explain myself.She had messaged me and said she changed the password but now she asked if I changed it as she cant log on.I do not what her back, after the time our relationship went for if she had to hide it from me then innoccent or not, what type of a relationship is it?Did I do the right thing? Did I act as anyone should and was I right in what I saw? Or have I wreaked something for no reason? Who is to blame? Reply to this Question
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reader, Vessence +, writes (28 August 2008):
Vessence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, for your opinion. I do agree she didnt care as if she did she never would have been in a situation I would find sus. Games are a definiate. I know I am better off considering inoccent or not she knew what she was doing and how I would see it. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): HiShe was harsh because you probably caught her out (thou protesteth too much).If she had nothing to hide you would have already known about the guest and who he was and why he was there, or she would have introduced you to him, to put your mind at rest. Even if it was innocent on her side...she never cared about your feelings, so i don't think she was right. And for the record i think she is playing games with you and getting a kick out of winding you up..clue (ha ha you loose)
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reader, Vessence +, writes (27 August 2008):
Vessence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know the email was a lot, though in the situation I was hurt. I regret it now. But it makes no difference to what I saw and she never treid to explain or stop me from thinking what i was.
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