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writes: im 16 and i fancy this bank teller at my local branch she is 18-22 but i waited outside the branch for nearly 1hr 30mins for her but she locked the door and just waved but im afraid to go back into the branch next week incase she thinks i was stalking her or she tells my mother because i really wanted to ask her out and i really like her but if my mother finds out she will go spare that this girl is older than me she knows i like her so what do i do?
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (31 January 2005):
 Hi there,First things first. Hanging around her workplace is probably not the best idea. She obviously would have noticed you outside the door for all the time, and it would have been a distraction from what she's supposed to be doing (that is, helping customers of the bank). Another reason not to be so overt about hanging around is that your attention could make her a target for teasing at work ("Hey, is your *boyfriend* still outside?") and make it harder for her to do her job. Yet another reason is that having someone she knows hang outside the doorway could get her into trouble with the management of the bank, who are probably not really interested in her romantic life and more interested in their customers having free access to the doors.Of course, if you have real business there, you definitely go back and take care of your business, just the same as any other customer of the bank. There won't be any concerns about stalking if you're coming in, doing your business and leaving. So at least that's one issue you don't have to worry about.If you want to ask her out, there are two things you're going to have to do. The first one has to do with your mum. If your mum has justifiable concerns about your going out with this "older woman" then you're going to have to deal with that in a mature way, particularly if you still live under your parents' roof. If you're responsible and mature, and the woman you're interested in wants to go out with you, you can explain that to your mum, but if you think that sneaking around is the answer, you'd only be proving that you're not mature enough to go out as an adult yet. Getting your mum onside is your first challenge.The second thing you need to tackle is to find a way to speak to the woman that you fancy without it disrupting her work. Maybe you could do that when she finishes her shift and is leaving one day, or maybe you could do your business with her at work and discreetly ask to speak with her when she's free. If you see her outside of her work (like, if she lives on your street), then do it then.I do have one more comment and I hope it won't make you feel too discouraged. If this woman really is a few years older than you (like 20 or 21), she's likely to be flattered by the attention, but I'm afraid that she may not be inclined to accept your invitation. The fact is that, once girls are out of high school, they don't generally go out with lads who are high-school aged again. Keep your fingers crossed, though, and put on your most adult appearance, and I hope you'll prove me wrong on that last point.Good luck.
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