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writes:I like this woman and we have been very good friends for a few years. About six months back I asked her if we could get into a relationship as I was serious about her. She told me that she wanted some time to think about it. We continue to be good friends. I asked her again recently and got a similar answer. I told her it was not right on her part to keep me waiting and I have decided to move on. At which point, she said she liked me and didn't want me to let go of it and wondered how I could just move on like this. I said alright I will wait for her to make up her mind and we are back to being good friends again. But this is not a right thing for me and I do feel I should move rather than just keep waiting. However, this is not something she would let happen easily. I am thoroughly confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks. i will bring it up with her soon. lets see how it goes. she likes me and she has said that many a times, i guess there is something which is stopping her from going ahead. i haven't been able to figure what.
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reader, Kama  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Sharing the power is hard!
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reader, Kama +, writes (31 May 2010):
Heartless indeed! But I see the power play thing here - she wouldn't let him go when he decided to leave - why not? Does she really like you? I'd force her into that position again, and try to remind her often that the power is yours (you WILL leave) It's my read in situations like this that she smells an empty threat and is stringing you along because she knows you're all in to her. Give her a real threat, and follow through if she doesn't get real- I think that's the only way - I've been there in a sense . . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): Hm, even though... She is being a bit heartless!! I hope it works out so your happy!! whatever you do don't eat out of her hand xx
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reader, Kama +, writes (30 May 2010):
I fully agree with Casey. If you want her, use your full hand of cards; that is, tell her you want an answer or you're going to start pursuing others. Don't hang in there too long for her; I've made this mistake before -- infatuation, love etc - these things are very real, but there are SO many you can have it with - Don't fall in love for too long with someone that won't give it back, someone else WILL. Right CaseY? Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Casey. The problem is she accepts she is not being fair. So I wont quite go to the extent of saying she has no regards for my feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): She is just stringing you along, people who do this are so unfair. It's really selfish of her, does it not put you off her that she has this little regard for your feelings?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 May 2010):
You should move on until she makes up her mind. It's not fair to you. You've told her how you feel and if she's not ready, then she's not. She wants to have her cake and eat it too, and that's not cool. I think you know what you should do, but if she's not going to come around anytime soon then you're going to move on eventually anyway.
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