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writes:I can't work out if this man likes me or is just being friendly. I met this man as a client as I used his home improvement company to do up my house. He is always very flirty and friendly. Lately I have seen him pop up everywhere and I mean everywhere I seem to run into him at least 4 times a week in various places. I have a toddler so my routine is really about taking her everywhere on a weekly basis. So I always go to the same places. But I always seem to bump into him in the street, or I have noticed him staring at me if he is across the road I pretend I'm not looking bit I can see him looking me up and down at the side of my eye. He has done a few jobs for me free of of charge infact he has never charged me and always says things about me being a single Mum on a budget he's happy to help me. Yet others he bills without question. I do kinda like him back but he's like 20 years older but very handsome but am I thinking he likes me and he is just being helpful or do others t think he actually does and I'm not going to lie if he does all his kindness is working I'm falling for him. What should I do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 June 2016):
 I can't improve on what Cindy Cares has said.
and yes if he is fully single (are you sure he is?) then who cares about age if it' works.
but be careful he may just assume you are up for fun and games and "have needs" so to speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): Are you SURE he isn't MARRIED?This is what you NEED to FIND OUT FIRST.If he IS, then run like hell...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 June 2016):
 Oh yes he does ! Free repairs ? he is happy to help out a single mom on a budget ?... yeah right.
I bet he has among his clients various other people who are not that rich and could use too a little free help,... old retired ladies on a small pension... hardworking householders with lots of dependants.... but those, he bills them, lol.
He likes you, but, he likes you for what exactly, we don't know it yet. I mean, he may also just like you because you are young and sexually attractive , and not be looking for anything more that some no strings attached fun. So, if you want more, caution ; it's a little too soon to be "falling for him ". Keep those feeling in check until you know what is what, and that you are more or less on the same page.
I applaud 11muds11's plan, very clever- you could use a that ,or a variation, and see what happens, but- go slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): Do I think this man likes you? Yes I do.Do I think he would be brave enough to do something about it? No! For a few reasons: you are a lot younger and I'd assume much hotter. So he would be afraid of rejection from you and may think you are out his league.2 - He met you through his company and they if he trys it on and It's unwelcome then there is a fear of legal action.So if you want to remove these fears you need to let him know his attention is wanted and It's mutual.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): If he's stalking you, eyeing you up and doing work for free then yes he definitely fancies you. The thing is what's holding him back? Maybe he feels he's too old for you or (more likely) he's in a relationship. Most people in their 40s are.If l were you I'd be a bit more forward and start asking him about his "wife" to gauge his reaction.If you know he's single but you are bothered by the age gap then sit down and think about it. It's really mot a big deal these days but long term it would need to be a consideration. I have two friends that married men 20 yrs older, both women divorced them once they men hit their 60s as they felt they were too old.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (10 June 2016):
I think that most older men don't like to make the first move on younger women, because they think it might be rude. Especially when you have a kid. My friend's wife had to say "You know, I wouldn't be offended if you asked me out for coffee sometime", until he got the hint.
My suggestion is that you phrase it something like that, or in your own way. That way, he's still the guy, and still has to ask you out, but you're letting him know you like him. You'll know from there. It might be that he just likes a beautiful woman in his life, or that he thinks it would be too forward for a man his age to ask you out. That statement should help you find out.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): Ask for his help and then spontaneously serve him coffee with a homemade cake and start talking get to know him. Show him you're interested...
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