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*unningrabbit
writes:I am interested in a older man. He is 32 and I am 21. I like him a lot and he says he likes the chase but, we have walls up between each other that we have discussed we have because we are both scared (we both told each other we were scared). I am scared though because I feel he may just want sex. Although he tells me he cares about me and that he misses me all the time and other extremely heartfelt things (like telling me things he plans to do and asking what I think), we have not had sex yet but hold each other when we spend the night together (we kiss and have done sexual things but, not actually had sex). I am just not sure of his intentions because those walls were up pretty high between us when we first started talking. We have been friends for over a year but have officially begun this three months ago. Does he just want sex or could he really be interested in a relationship with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): iam going threw the same thing.so i guess he luvs u
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reader, runningrabbit +, writes (21 September 2008):
runningrabbit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, we have been kinda distant friends because ted dating I started dating someone last year when him and I JUST became friends and were kind of interested. And because I knew that it may cause friction between my boyfriend and I if I continued talking to him, I stopped. So its almost like our friendship went on hold and then started back up again three months ago.. SO NOW I am finally really getting to know him. And he said the whole chase thing as if he PLANS to chase me .. So I dunno..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Look, if he hasn't pressured you into sex yet, it could very well mean he's interested in you for more than that.
But he could just be biding his time as well.
This kind of thing is never easy to pidgeonhole. None of them women here that have posted can possibly say what he trully wants or does not want, because they have never met the man. They judge solely by what you write and most likely their own experiences which have probably not been nice at times.
I say go ahead and sleep with him if that is what you want, but do it because you want to, and because it is a natural way for you to express that, but don't do it out of some misguided sense of loyalty or duty.
Talk to the man about it. It's the only way you can ever be sure.
Flynn 24
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (20 September 2008):
 i agree, he's cool now because he hasn't gotten what he wante yet. (sex) i wouldn't be surprise if once you gave it up to him, the phone calls are less and less.
He does not sound like the commitment type at all. He just wants to date forever.
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