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writes: hey, this is kinda an oqurid topic for me. ok here it goes... i have alot of guy friends and we all hang out alot, well one day we were hangin out and i said "im really bored" and being my guy friends they all said something dirty....but one or them happend to say "then why dont you come over here and give me head, that should keep you intertaned" then me being the sarcastic person i am i said "oh yes ill get right on that" then a couple of my guy friends offered to pay me $20 if i did it, well i really liked the guy so i did it and honestly it was fun....but then i gess i figured it was no big deal. well when i started dating the guy i started giving him oral sex alot (because we both enjoyed it) but after we broke up i decided that to have that plesure all the time i should have fwb's (friends with benifits) so i had about 4 or 5 then i started giving all of them oral sex.....but when i found a new guy i droped all my fwb's. my boyfriend who i totally loved happend to ask me how far i had been with a guy i hesitated for a moment then i said i have givin oral sex when he asked how many times i said i had only done it once....i said this because he is a very jelious person (we broke up). but i gess what im askin is that does doing any of this make me a bad person and/or a slut? thanks for any help!ps. i just cant seem 2 get it out of my head.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Not a bad person just a confused teenager who feels that by giving this pleasure she is getting something in return. You are not, you will not gain anyone's respect this way and potential (decent) boyfriends will find this off putting if you are too eager to give head as soon as you meet them.
Listen to the advice the others have given you re STD's, put this behind you and call it experience. Get to know a guy and date properly and wait until you are in a loving relationship before you perfrom sexual favours again and you dont have to mention all your past discretions to anyone again x
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 No it doesn't make you a bad person or a slut, you're just experimenting (I guess technically you are a "whore" since you were paid for sex, but nevermind that). I just have a few things to say.
1. I hope you used appropriate protection- having oral sex with so many people, you never know what kinds of diseases you might pick up.
2. If you feel badly about it or are not comfortable with your actions, you may want to consider not doing this anymore. You should really examine your reasons for doing what you did- was it for your pleasure? The pleasure of the guys? Were you doing it for approval/acceptance? Do you ever regret doing it? If you're not comfortable with it, then you really shouldn't do it.
It seems to me that you are having regrets about your actions. If that's the case, maybe you should take a break from your sexual activities and re-examine yourself and your motivations. It has already ended one relationship of yours, perhaps the trade-off isn't worth it. Just something to consider.
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 You are not a bad person. You were supposed to learn a lesson from this. Did you learn it? A girl who is going somewhere in life does not start of her teenage years giving oral favors to a plethera of guys. Thats the lesson. You are asking yourself if you are a bad person because deep down you are ashamed, and should be. You are not bad, your choices were. Right now, you should be focusing on bettering your life, going to school, becoming a smart, wealthy, independant woman so that when you fall in love FOR REAL, it will be with the most handsome, teriffic guy ever. Isnt that what you want? Guys your age thrive on spreading the news "Hey! I know this chick that gives blow jobs to just about anyone! She'll do it for $20!" Is that what kind of reputation you want at school, and at home? You put yourself at high risk for STD's (which you can catch orally too). Be a good person, and dont sell yourself, (literally) and abuse the term "friend with benies". You are better than that.
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Your hormones are going nuts at This age. You should show some self control though. It may be fun and help pass the time as well as make these guys like you even more but there are a list of bad things that will come from doing what you are doing.
1. You can still catch sexually transmitted diseases this way.
Herpes is one and do you want to break out all around your mouth several times a year? Everyone can see it and everyone knows what it is.
That's one of the main reasons.
2. You will be used by every one of those guys. They will only give you attention because you will give them oral sex.
Guys will talk about you and guys you don't even know will want you to do it.
3. Girls will find out and you shnould know that girls can be mean and you may find your self having to move to a different school just to escape the names and wispers.
4. You don't want to give that to just anyone. Its special and its you giving This special part of you to anyone. When you start to have serious relationships do you think that great guy your going to be in love with would like the fact that you have oral sex to all these guys? I think not my dear.
Men from what I know when they think of their girlfriend and really love her they think she is a princess. Beautiful and clean. Fresh and white. It sounds queer but its true.
I think you are letting your hormones lead you into destruction. Don't think with them honey. Please think logically.
They don't really like you better they just want to take what you can give. Don't treat your self that way. And please remember number one reason not to give oral sex so much. SYD's on your face or anywhere else are nothing nice. Don't look good...don't go away most times and speak loader than words. Love your self and respect your self. Your body is your diamond keep it gleaming clean and safe from all the harm that can be done. And think abou it. If you had a very enormis diamond would you let everyone touch it...chip away at it? By the tme you got married and ace it to your husband it would be all used up and no prize at all. I know this was long but one more thing. Do not feel bad about what's already been done its never ever too late to change and respect your self. You are worth it.
Be good.
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