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writes:So I have a big problem. I have been in a horrible relationship where the girl is too intence and never really showed passion.... other then in sex. Finally she broke up with me but wanted to remain friends. Because i still liked her i agreed to it. Any ways i moved on and found this girl. She is amazing! she is pretty, fun, and very cool. We get along great, even though we lack some things in common we have never had a dull moment. Well that is the easy part. Now what happened is that i went to my ex house to chill because we havent seen each other in a while. The house was empty and we started to see a movie. This was in the morning if it fits better. Any ways, we watched a movie and we started to horse play which is normal to me since i play around with all my friends like that. But... she started doing some things that she knows turn me on... any ways one thing let to another and i got wrapped up into it. I really regret ever going to her house for this but nothing was inserted and we didnt kiss... it was more of her bitting me and pining me down and grinding.... Now its the 31 of dec and its my bday. Me and my ex had a fight and stopped talking which i liked, and she send me a text saying "Hey you sick son of a B@#$%! I hope you have a miserable b-day and your consequences catch up to you!" I let my girl look at it and she called her but of course no answer. I kinda wish she did though... because now i feel like im the one to blame. i feel dirty and like and ass. I want to tell her but i dont, because i told her she did try to seduce me but i never gave any details.... My question is: Does this make me a bad person?And if i am what can i do to make things right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): No, you didn't do anything. She was the one to break it off; she was the one to come on to you, and you didn't sleep with her. Being friends with an ex rarely works out. It's only natural that both partners need time to get over each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): I think you have to accept that your ex girlfriend isn't over you. Girls stay friends with ex lovers mostly because they still have feelings and hopes that the relationship will rekindle. You had moved on and this was probably painful for your ex to accept. If she was really over you she probably wouldn't have stayed friends.
When you went to see her she used the only thing that desperate women have to try to get your attention, she came onto you.
Your not the bad guy but its time to wise up. Women are very emotional creatures and its never a good idea to stay friends after you split, unless your 100% sure its mutual on both sides.
My advice would be to cut all ties with this girl. She has already vented her frustration by sending you an insulting text message. DO NOT allow your new girl to contact her...thats just plain cruel. Move on and be happy with your new girl. Let your ex have space and if she contacts you DO NOT reply under any circumstances. If she gets threatening or verbal, contact the police. She will soon get the message and this will allow her to move on herself.
Good Luck x
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