A
female
age
51-59,
*andit
writes: I am trying not to read into this, but I have some questions that need some outside input. I have this guy friend who I think has been flirting with me. He always gives me a high five when we see each other. He gave me a nickname and he always approaches me in our group of friends. He sent me a text message asking me if I was going with him to the concert with him and I thought he meant it to go to someone else so I replied "is this meant for me" The way he worded it was direct and asking me to go with him...later on he said he was trying to get a lot of our friends to go with us, but so far it was just he and his brother and me and another girl. I was having a rough day one time and he and I were texting each other and he said he wanted to call me later and talk about this because he was in a meeting. When he called me back we talked for an hour and a half. He always tell me he likes my hair or loves my sense of humor and tells me he thinks I am beautiful and fit and could have any guy I want. I asked him to coffee so we could talk about all this and that lasted for two hours. He said that he didn't mean to lead me on and that he just wanted to be friends. Did I misread all his actions? He keeps telling me that he is trying to get another girls attention...just trying to add info so you can get the best picture. Does this guy like me as more than a friend?
View related questions:
flirt, text Reply to this Question Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, randit +, writes (28 September 2010):
randit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf the guy is interested and I made it clear that I am also interested then why doesn't he just say that? I mean, he doesn't have to worry about rejection because i am not rejecting him. I don't understand why the mixed signals are necessary...
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): How do I make him know that we are pretty close? It seems like I should back off and allow him time to think about what our relationship really means to him.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Yes, I like him and we are pretty close. We have so much in ocmmon and get along really well. I was sad to hear that he is chasing another girl, but I suppose time will tell. I made it clear to him that if he only wants to be friends then he has to stop the flirting and showing me attention. I told him that I will call him on it if he does. The thing that my heart says is to look at his actions and those actions are speaking volumes that he likes me. His mouth says somthing else, but his actions are very clear. I have to be friend with him because I don't want to throw that away, but on the other hand I have to also show less interest on my part even if I like him.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): He told you directly, he doesn't want to lead you on. Take him for his word.
Just move on, be friends with him if you'd like and if you won't be bothered by the fact that he's chasing another girl. (Do you like him a lot?) Otherwise, don't wait around for him and don't drop anything for this guy.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): From a male perspective this guy likes you. Trust me no man wants to sit on a phone and talk for an hour and a half listening to your feelings on the phone unless they are into you. Think about it, when is the last time you've seen a guy talk to his buddy for more than 15 minutes. Yeah, he likes you as more than a friend. Whether or not he's picked you over this other girl is another story though. Be more straight forward. It sounds like you and this guy are pretty close anyway, so make him know that.
...............................
|