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writes:Uh well there's this girl who I met through a writing website half a year ago.So as an extension of collabing story with her (and along with the other 3), I got her email and we start to chat through msn. She's always appearing offline, so it's her who always messages me in the first place. Things go on for around four months, and she knows how I look (having searched from friendster), and I ask her to send me hers. Every time she just simply shrugs the question away playfully and tells me she will when she figures out how to use her camera.As we get closer (chatting almost on daily basis), I find out that she's a new fresh graduate from girl's school and has just recently enters into a college.She tells me that she runs of when guys ask her for a contact number, and she basically hates guy as they irritates her. When I tried to ask for more, she shrugs it off simply by saying, nevermind. So I decide not to question furthermore.And after her MIA for 3-4 days, when she comes back and message me, I ask her for her contact number after hesitating for a long time. She gives me (which surprise me), and calls me on the weekend for a short chat. (during the conversation, there is a short pause where she states that she's blushing so hard on the other side of the phone and would like to have a short pause for her to rinse her face) During that night, after I come back from my outing with friends, she sends me an email of her picture. I ask her why, and she answers me by telling me she has just figures out how to use her camera, and decides to send me her picture - specifically stating she takes the picture in no more than five minutes ago, in the same shirt.After staring at her picture for one-full minute, I find my heart begins throbbing against my chest. I find out that I'm in love with her (actually since the first time I talked with her, it's just that I'm trying to deny these feelings) and she, impatiently tries to ask me how do she looks like, did I live up to her expectation or so...Then I tell her she looks great. The conversation goes on until she tells me I'm a flatterer for at least six times.Somehow we both share a special kind of humor. We joke using our fantasy character most of the time.But talking about stories is like...a vague hint. It's because most of the time we talk about it (over hours) on the net, around 80% of the time. It seems "good" if we look it from the front, but in the same time, it might be "bad" idea if she sees me as a friend to share her ideas and stories with, no more than that.As we get know each other more, I find that I share a lot of common of interest with her.And now, I'm struggling day-to-day, thinking about her. She always gets me so excited by talking to me, but at the same time, I dare not to guess the meaning behind her hints. It's like a double-edged sword; if I hit on the right side it's happy ending for me, but the opposite will be if I got the wrong side.Let's just say...- I tried to tell her that my exam would be tomorrow, and would like her to text me and wish me good luck. But I think she didn't really care about that much? The good explanation would be she's not a phone person and didn't like to text people. The bad one, however, would be of that she wants to talk about ideas with me, no more than that?- I told her my thought of liking her to write a short part of my story. She rejects, though politely, stating that she'd not like to infringe in my style, saying that I do a better job (even though she is a way better author than I am...) Good explanation: She's just simply shy; Bad: She doesn't really care?These are just some example of the events that is driving me mad.And I tell her that I'd like to call her during this weekend. She said okay and sure, but it didn't turn out in that way today. I text-ed her asking will if be fine to call, but no reply. That night, she tells me in msn (after having messaged her in the afternoon) she said her mom is there (the first time she calls me when her mom went out, and hung up when her mom came back). So it's okay for me. But, throughout the conversation (of 5-6 hours long) she didn't give any hint of she's looking forward for it. Maybe I just shouldn't call after all.Guys, tell me. Does she sees me as a "special" friend which shares a common in interest, or do I stand a chance to take a step further than normal friendship? I, for once, am not a firm believer of long-distance relationship, but by falling in love with her, I find out that I've been trying to find the remedies or perhaps way to maintain it through websites.Will it works?
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reader, JustTheWayYouAre  +, writes (5 November 2010):
I just read this, and I am very curious now. Since this is from 2 years ago can you update me?
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (23 February 2010):
 From what you told me she got a crush on you and she likes you a lot . You just need to send cloues that you like her too. Then she'll text you all day long.
I had the same thing and it worked out great for me . We' ve been dating for 3 years now and we met at the same collage(i moved) but it was totaly worth it. I've been dating a lot before that and sleped with girl but i never had the same conection .
You need to meet her in person than you'll know . I bought a plane ticked with all money I had and went there .
Btw my friend got same thing and it didn't work out well when they met. And he told me about this one guy whos girl send one picture but she wasn't on there.
P:S girls does not spend 6 hours on phone with guys they don't like she's probably playing hard to get as my girlfriends friend adviced her when we started to talk through phone. If you call her a lot she'll get that you like her
Good luck man love is the best thing ever it's worth the risk
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 I wouldn't worry too much about sounding desperate! Try not to give out mixed messages if you think she is too, you've known her long enough so that you can start slowly dropping hints that you like her. Sooner of later she'll pick up on it I'm sure! Atleast, that's my current plan of attack anyway! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. :)I'd love to meet her (being 6 hours distance apart from each other), she said she might be coming my area soon for some sort of competiton and would like to meet up with me (I certainly hope she means it); or I might be on a vacation to her place.But of course, I don't want to sound too desperate so I didn't do anything so far, being afraid that I'd lose a great friend like her.So yeah, I kinda trying to figure things out before it's too late. Thank you again :)
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo +, writes (8 June 2008):
I'm going through something fairly similar to you at the moment - trying to get a girl but unsure if she likes me back. I think just because its you in a particular situation you start to doubt yourself so it's good you came here to ask for advice too!In my opinion, I'd say yeah, theres a good chance she likes you BUT (and I've been told this a thousand times now) DON'T BLOW IT by being too needy. Chances are she doesnt love you like you love her yet, work on it! ;) She probably didnt text you to wish you luck because she thought wishing you luck at the time meant the same and you're right, she seems shy!It obviously took her a long time to pluck up the courage to show you her photo (no matter what she says - she can work a camera!) so I think she is trying to show you that she does care about you but is nervous around boys. Push forward if you can but just make sure it's not too quick! Any chance you can arrange a meeting with her? Also try and take your mind off her a little bit - get involved in some other activites otherwise you'll over-analyse the situation and slowly drive yourself insane! :PBest of luck mate!
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