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writes:My best friend and her husband work together in a Retirement facility. They live on site. They are together 24/7. Working together during the day and living together at night. They have been doing this for 11 years. She is not happy and never gets a break from her husband. She is 55 and he is 60. They work non stop while they are at work. I think she fills her life with her job because she is not happy with her relationship. I got her to come up for a weeks vacation this summer and spend it with me. It's the first time they have been apart like that for 11 years. She really enjoyed her time with me and told me while she was here that she married him to get away from her step-dad and that she wasn't sooooooo much in love with him. I think she started to fall for me a couple years ago. She can't admit it to me but all the flirting she has done with me and the things she says to me are surely signs of someone that is into you. My question is, is it possible for 2 people to work together like they have and being together 24/7 to have a marriage that works? What kind of issues does being with someone 24/7 create for a marriage??Thank you
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 November 2009):
Imagine having a wife (or husband, it works both ways) that was with you all the time, by your side 24 hours a day, all those relationshop problems just there all the time and you're not able to talk to anyone about it.
No, it very rarely works. And this is an example. She is terribly unhappy with everything.
Couples do need time apart from each other, and they do need to be able to vent their feelings to other people. They work together, so they can't moan about each other to work colleagues, they can't express themselves.
The sad thing is she is trapped in it. She's flirting with you because you're a good person and she's sees you as understanding and receptive. But she's not happy, so don't make a move (I'm sure you won't), and just be a good friend to her instead
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