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*orking_Romance
writes:Hi everyone,I need your opinions if a guy at work likes me and whether its a good idea to get involved.History:We both started working together at the same time, and broke up with our partners on the same day (we didnt realise this at the time)We both are part timers and our work doesnt allow us much of a chance to talk to each other as we work in a call centre.One day we had the same shift and he asked me to come with him to buy a mug for work, after the mug he offered to buy me a beer, which I accepted. After the beer he asked if I would like to go shopping with him, but I declined and went home.The next time we had our shift together he asked me to sit on the same desk as him (we have a big desk for 2). We talked about lame jokes and where he could take girls on a date. I think he is very lovely and would like to date him, so I told him how sweet he was to want to do romantic things for these girls and how I wished that someone would do the same for me. He then said, ahh we work together, taht could be an issue.We both arent looking for anything serious, and I would like the companionship/affection- and we also dont work together every day, nor have much of an opportunity to speak between calls.Today was my day off and he was working an 8 hour shift, he has been texting me all day; example:HIM(11am): Ive had like no sleep, up till 3am on the phone to the ex, summary mu gut feelings were right :/ME: Awww shiiiit, shit lolHIM(12pm): Why did the butcher lose his catering contract? When the steaks where high he couldnt meet expectations.ME: - witty joke, too long to write, something lame about a dog walking into a barHIM: You working tomorrow?ME: Yup- 8:45- 5:15 woooHIM: Ah, unlucky, i have a date in st kilda tomorrow. Would have suggested some beers at the espy if you werent working.ME: Haha have fun on your date think of me.. haha, working and stuff I meanHIM: This one isnt serious. I will explain the logic behing it when I see you....So I take this as flirting, Does anyone agree?Why would he be at work texting me on my day off, asking to sit with me, asking where to take girls (maybe hes just saying that to make me want him more?), asking me for a beer just he and I, then shopping etc,,,Could someone please confirm my suspicion that he likes me?? I dont have any gf's that I can talk to about this stuff :(I personally dont have a problem with the working together thing as we both dont want anything serious and are part timers with different shifts, but could anyone tell me if they have had a similar experience?Thanks :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 February 2013):
 you can't live your life wondering what others think.
if you like him
and he likes you
and you are ok with dating a co-worker (and with the aftermath at work) then go for it and have fun
just don't jump in too quickly
if you want to kiss him, kiss him... but not at work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): Hi again,OP here,I wanted to update the situation..Yesterday my male work interest and I had a day off.He asked me to come out for a drink. We met at 3 and had so much fun that I ended sleeping at his house.I made it clear that I am attracted to him but will never make a move unless he does.We slept in the same bed last night and he put his arm around me while we fell asleep. In the morning he made me a coffee and we went off to work as usual. One of my bosses is a good friend of mine and she says its very common in our office to have inter work relationship flings.He has texted me all today again. Nothing romantic, but just to say that he had secured a locked drawer for us to share (which is VERY hard to fid where we work)...I feel like if we didn't work together it could be more, the fact he wanted to put his arm around me indicated that he cares for me, and respects me enough not to take advantage of me. (we were very drunk at the time and he could have tried to make a sexual advance towards me.)I have heard how he has dated girls and taken them home for one night stands, so I feel special that I was one of the girls for him to consider important enough so as not to make a move.I want him now more than ever, we are working this weekend together and have organised to sit next to each other again...I would like to kiss him just one time. I wonder what people think about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): "I need your opinions if a guy at work likes me and whether its a good idea to get involved."
No, never get involved with a person at work.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-get-over-my-work-colleague.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-you-think-my-colleague-is-using-me.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-are-men-so-confusing-help.html
OP he is flirting and work is an issue. You say you have no girlfriends well read there what happens to people who date colleagues. Even when things go well things can get very frayed.
You say you don't want anything serious, yet here you are going over every little detail of whether he likes you or wants you. If you wanted nothing serious you'd be a lot more casual about this than you are.
It's flirting but it sounds like he's warned you that nothing is going to come of it. You literally offered yourself up to him on a plate and he declined. He may ask you out or he may not. But I really do advise against dating work colleagues. Even just sleeping with them once can change everything and make intolerable.
See what happens sure.
OP one thing about us guys, we're generally very straight forward. He told you he's not interested in anything serious, he's told you the fact you work together is an issue because inside he knows things will get messy. But look, go for it if you like. It may be awesome, and if it's not at least you'll understand why dating colleagues is the worst idea. There is no escape from them should things go wrong, if he turns out to be an asshole then he can spread around all he did with you with people at work etc. So many things can go wrong.
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