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writes: It was my boyfriends birthday at the weekend and his ex wife brought his 2 small children round to his so they could give him their presents. They only stayed 30 minutes but she spent about £50 on him from the kids and also gave him her own birthday card with "Love Belinda" on it (no kisses). Is this anything to worry about? Their background is that she cheated on him so he walked out and left her. She is now dating the guy she had the affair with but Im not sure if this means she wants him back or was just being nice because of the children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): I think £50 and "Love Belinda" (no kisses) is nothing to get worried about at all. You've given no other indications that she is pursuing your guy.I don't think the important question is if she wants him back, what's more important is does he want her back? You must remember she cheated on him, then left him. It sounds like your guy is with you now, and even if Belinda were interested, you have nothing to worry about. Maybe if you are able to talk about your boyfriend about these feelings he could give you some reassurance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): Obviously, you're worried, or you won't even post this up here. Spending 50 pounds isn't exactly much on gifts. Buying him a new car or a nice new house is something else however.
I think based on this little bit of info, you're feeling insecure. What else can I say? Ex-wife brings kids over to wish ex husband a happy birthday...... And, your dilemma is.....?
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (26 April 2006):
 It depends on how fresh the divorce is. If it is, I wouldn't put it past her. Otherwise, I've been in the x-wifes shoes sort of but I didn't cheat. He left me. I would do silly things like that for my daughter's father when I was involved elsewhere just to let him know I was appreciative of him as a father. When you have kids together, break up and he's still supportive, you kinda wanna give kudos cause you see how many run off or put less important things first.Regardless of what she does, what to watch would be his reaction to it. I think that would be the tale tell in this situation. Also,Did you tell him how you feel about this? I would say something, but tred lightly cause maybe wondering himself. Couldn't hurt to clear the air. Alot of peoples' feelings are involved in this situation and respecting/including them is important for you all to make it through as a whole I feel.
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