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writes:I met a girl online, and she lived in my area. We met and talked and what not, and I really began to like her, and she felt the same way about me. She had to move a few hours away, but we kept the relationship going. We had never really talked about our past, or anything. She was asking questions, and had a kind of personal question about sex. I mentioned I had only 1 girlfriend in the past, who wanted to remain a virgin so I respected that. So technically I am also a virgin. She was surprised. She then said that if a girl in my area began to hit on me, or flirt with me, then to flirt back. And to date casually and to have sex or what not, just don't tell her about it. (She also hinted something about sex makes a boy a man.) I was kind of confused because I do not know why she would say such a thing. I told her I couldn't believe she would say such things. I was confused for a while, and then hurt, then just didn't know what to think. So she realized what she was saying and said to just forget about it, trying to change the subject.So she called after we talked and she said that, but I didn't answer because I was a mad/confused/hurt/etc.She then sent a text message saying 'im sorry baby i didn't realize what i was saying. im so wrong. i dont want you to see anyone else, cause i would hate that. i love you and would hate that. im sorry, please forgive me.'My questions finally: What should I think of what she said? And her apology?And what should I do?? I'm so confused.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (17 May 2008):
 You won't know until you ask her directly, but I do beleieve that very often, your gut instinct is right.
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reader, Zee +, writes (16 May 2008):
Zee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was thinking she asked because she was already dating someone there so wanted me to date other people.That's what I dont understand. I asked her, if she was dating someone and I said I was going to visit her for a few days, what would she say to the guy she was dating? She said she would tell him she's not interested in him anymore or something else to make him leave.I'm thinking she's already moved on, and is trying to get me to move on without directly doing so.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 maybe she said this to you because she wants you to have more experience with sex before dating a girl like her. but then again that text she sent to you makes it seem like she really does have a lot of feelings for you. maybe she was trying to joke around and be funny.in the long run long distance relationships do not always work out! i know it through experience. it is hard to have an equal relationship if one person is doing most of the work by driving, calling, texting. good luck with everything and always remember that having trust in your relationship with her is key.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (16 May 2008):
She was testing you, to see what you would say. She wanted to know if you would date other girls as well as her, because of the distance, without asking you directly.
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