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writes: Ok. I've been very persistent with this girl that I feel I love and I sort of did her wrong a long time ago. But I've held out the hope that she will eventually forgive me and care enough to get with me. I send her letters every now and then. And just try to stress how much I miss her and all that. So I recently found her myspace by typing in an alias I just all of a sudden remembered she uses to write poetry and such. It was her birthday so I left her a nice message wishing her happy bday! And I wrote her a lil birthday poem, cuz I'm a poet.Well Right after that..and i mean right after.. she changed her status to Crying, and her mood to gloomy on her profile. She also changed her pic to a prettier picture. So I sent another message asking her not to cry and to ignore my messages if they do, cuz all i want her to do is smile. She sent me a very angry message back and then shortly after..like the next day.. changed her mood to confident.. with the :D face.. and her status to "looking". Then the next day she put up new pictures of her smiling and kissing some dude in the club. The dude looked so smug like he knew what the pic was for. Almost like she went out to the club the night before, just to secure that pic...For the record, if you think she just changes status and mood and pic all the time..she doesn't..She hasn't changed it for like 2 weeks since this all happened. I've been trying to figure this out.What is going on here? Did I really make her do all that? Lil ole me? Or is it all some massive coincidence and I'm just playing myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI still don't think its as invasive as physical recon, soldier. I didn't know if she was even still alive till i found her myspace. Don't I have the right to still know that?Yes I care about her, but I also care about myself. Its a balancing act I have been trying to figure out all this time.And yes I hurt her but its not like this hasn't hurt me too.. You don't know about the riff raff I dealt with before her, do you? Hustlers, and players, and heartless. The idealistic young lovable kid I was had already been twisted by the time I met her! and you of all people should KNOW the world is capable of doing that, so don't even front! I didn't know what I had until I LOST it, and that brought everything back into shattering clarity for me. She just entered my life with extremely bad timing, thats all...and No...I've sent enough apologies, as is.. Eyes is right..she will never forgive me.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 By stalking I meant adding her to your myspace so you can "see she is ok" or in my world "Spying on her!" internet stalking is just as real as sitting in a bush outside her house and just as creepy.
You need to move on from this girl you have already broken her heart, if you truely cared about her you would leave her alone!
She has made it clear she is not interested and I'm sorry if you it takes me to write it out in a very harsh way but you don't seem the type to understand how girls think (if you were you wouldn't have cheated on your one weakness!)
Send one last message reading along the lines of "I'm so very sorry for hurting you, I will leave you alone now, but you know where I am if you ever need me." Then NEVER EVER send her a message, letter, card, semaphore signal or any other form of communication EVER again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, she is under an alias..meaning her myspace isn't under her legal name..its under an alias she uses for her poetry. Plus, I put a pic of myself on my myspace that goes with any messages sent. But yes, I do sign my handwritten letters.I guess you are right...She will never forgive me...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 I can't speak for the world but it appears she hasn't any forgiveness for you. But you said you used an alias, how do you know that she knows it was you on her Myspace? Did you sign your name to the letters? You know when someone's trust is squashed it is mighty hard to get over. I think perhaps she just doesn't think it's worth the effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI cheated on her.. No.. I did more than that.. I made her lose faith in the side of her that I fell in love with..I also disappointed her for not reaching the potential she believed and kept encouraging me that I had.I just want us to be cool at least.. Its been forever since then. And it wasn't my proudest moment. But can she not forgive? Does the world have no forgiveness left?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 April 2009):
Just what exactly did you do in the past to hurt her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionArmyMedic.. Yes- I am in my 20's, and thanks for the degrading insinuation. She happens to be my one weakness in life, thank you very much. I don't really see how I'm stalking her. Bday wishes and a few letters? Its not like I'm in the bushes outside her house!And if she was so over me..like didn't care.. then she wouldn't have gone through all that effort to puzzle and dismay me. I mean its not positive feelings, but she most definitely isn't neutral about this either.Eyes- Yeah, I guess. I can't figure out if she was trying to hurt me back, or what you said, though. Probably a combination of the two.I didn't mean to sound smug..or proud that she went through all that for me, but its the only way to gauge any sort of anything that I have left.. I deleted her phone numbers, burned her pictures, and threw her ring in the ocean.. alls I have left is letters and myspace, and mostly just to see if she's alright! I just don't understand why we can't be cool... Its really eating me up inside.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 April 2009):
Definitely the Internet way of saying "bug off".
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (11 April 2009):
Are you seriously in your 20's? and Yes, She probably has done this because of you!
The reason she has done this is because you have stalked her, which is a bit creepy! She put a sad face because you infringed her personal space and then changed it to show you that she has moved on and is NOT interested in you anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes that's what I thought too.. She's still saddened and angry at me. but that was so long ago.. Why would she harbor a grudge for so long? She's as persistent in her grudge, apparently, as I am in trying to gain her forgiveness. Its so frustrating.
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reader, appledapples +, writes (11 April 2009):
I'm sorry to hear that. Sounds like internet drama. But if you said you had done her wrong before. This sounds like retribution on her end. You burned her bad, and she is trying to get back at you for it. If you really care about her, call her up and have a face to face talk with her. I cannot promise if it will work out but at least you'll have some type of closure.
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