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writes:I bumped in to my ex the other day I havnt seen her for six months, the breakup was hard she cheated on me with someone i walked away, the otherguy never worked out, but i remained in my view dignified. Communication since the split has been limited and for a long time none. The twist of fate yesterday led me to spending the whole day at work int the same room as her. It started awkward on both parts, but I could still see why i had cared so much for her previously, which i hoped I wouldnt, we chatted we laughed, coffee, etc, her body language indicate signs of interest i had seen before. Her phone kept bleeping most of the day with txt to which she would reply. Non of my business, but late on she went on to explain to me that it was net ball that night and all the people texting her were the team for the night, who was attending and who was not.I tok a phone call fom a colleague and when i turned back around she had put fresh lipstick on. She got the opportunity to leave work well before me but kept finding reasons to stay longer, infact choosing to leave the same time as me and i felt she was almost going to offer me a lift but I had already arranged one I declared (so she never actually asked but Im 100% it was on her mind)..It was a ice day, we got on and it was lovely to see her. A short time later, I simply text, work is sometimes hard but it was a ice surprise to see, and enjoy your game tonight..I never got a response, it could be argued it doenst need a response...Im just confused, I know i still care but does she?
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reader, Kilcardy  +, writes (26 January 2011):
You clearly have not moved on and you are assigning significance to what is meaningless conduct on her part. She hasn't seen you in six months for a reason. That you fortuitously bumped into her is mere happenstance, nothing more. I think the unanswered text says it all. Her interest level is really not there. And besides, she cheated on you dude. Do you really want to touch the hot stove again? Wasn't once enough? Don't be confused. It's over. It's been over for some time now. Time for you to move on from this episode in your life. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): I would take it very easy. You sent her a text and no reply. I would not text again, once is enough. It may be that she is happy just to be on friendly terms. If she texts you then perhaps you could suggest lunch, something casual. But you are in danger of slipping into a relationship that did not work the first time or face rejection because she has moved on. As for being confused - could it be that you were looking a bit too much into her actions that day - it's easy to do that when you like someone. So leave it for now.
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reader, Abella +, writes (26 January 2011):
 you have nothing to lose if you ask to meet her for lunch (less threatening, implies no expectation of more) and see how the interaction goes. Find out how things have been going, where her life is going, her hopes from now on. Any dreams for the future.
You will know if you have a chance, if the lunch goes well.
Though if you ever decided to get together some realisation of why she cheated, and some ground rules would have to be established, to try to prevent cheating in the future.
good luck.
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