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writes:She tells me that she likes how I am always there to talk, she said she likes that I like her but not enough to date me so w/e. Im not hear to ask what can I do to get her to like me cause its to late for that. My question is do you think she really means that she likes that I am there to talk to her. I have told her she doesn't have to be nice to me but for some reason I don't think she means it. I want her to mean it because honestly I love talking to her regardless to if we are dating or not she makes me feel good. If she likes that I am there to talk why has she only started a few conversations with me when I have tried to start so many with her unless she likes to listen to what I say which would be cool but I doubt it. What do you think, I have asked her to be honest about everything and she said the truth is she likes how I am there to talk. I don't know what to think I get mixed signals cause my friends say why do you talk to her and I feel as though if she likes it then I will but at the same time she won't respond to fb messages some times and I pretty much am just confused by her which is why I like her. thanks for the help Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Of course she means it. She gets to vent all her thoughts and feelings for free. I'm glad you enjoy talking to her and are getting something out of it, but honestly this is a fine example of the "Friend Zone."
The Friend Zone will eat you up inside if you're harboring a crush on a girl. I've known some great female friends, but if you're pining over one, it's a slow emotional torture.
She generally responds slowly or does not initiate conversation because you're doing all that work for her. It's ego gratification for her. That, or she's talking to another guy.
Take it from a guy who has been there more than once. If you want to date her, but she isn't interested, sever all contact. You will just feel used otherwise. The only exception to that rule is if she introduces you to lots of her cute friends.
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