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writes:I've been dating with a gerl for 5 years and recently she decided to end our relationship. Her reason was that she wanted me to be independent, which I'm trying hard and also she wanna see weather 'the grass is greener on the other side'. She mentioned that she still loves me and there are too much memories with me and it is hard for her to leave me, however, she still wants to 'experiment' dating some guy at her NEW job. I have to actually corner her for the truth and she brutally honestly tell me that she is seeing someone at work. I was wrecked! She changed suddenly since her new job. A friend of mine says that it might be infatuation. Luckily, she founds out that the guy doesn't suit her taste and character and even tell me the whole dating process and even confess that they kissed .. 3 times!I even stalked her on one of her date one day, and she actually caught me doing that. She was surprised yet happy to see me and went out with me right after she sees the guy off. We even joke about how stupid I felt stalking her and she says that is was an adventure. Ain't that confusing?!I've asked her weather she still loves me and she said she is as noone else but me have accepted her attitude and really knows her. I even made her promise that she'll come back to me if things didnt work out with that guy. However, I know I can't rush her to take me back as I don't want her to take me back as a reason of pitiness. ( I was wrecked and she actually felt guilthy ).I've been thinking ... if i change, not because of her but myself. Will she still take me back? Does she really loves me or has it already faded? I'm totally confuse right now!~~
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reader, PentX +, writes (3 July 2008):
PentX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLatest thing I did was - I asked her sternly where I stood in her life. There were no direct answers .. instead it was "What are you talking about?". She got agitated. She told me, if you wanna back off its YOUR decision.
I hung up, ask myself why I'm assuming so much negative thoughts. She still calls me up, text me and even called me tru our passionate names. She gives me a deep kiss whenever I fetched her home and even kiss me goodbye before goin off to work, in public on the lips!
Heck .. we're even goin for a date this weekend and she's so excited about it. She even wants me to give her a FULL body massage which eventually will lead to something else.
Im kindda happy and miserable mixed together. I know she still loves me but this feeling of insecurity bothers me alot. I want HER back as my partner, not go out with her knowing that we're just ex. But does she really really loves me or is she just using me till she finds a new guy who is able to spark her life. What can I do to make her really see that I'm her man.
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reader, PentX +, writes (2 July 2008):
PentX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can't bear knowing thr truth. It hurts, but at the same time, I love her too much. I know it is not me to decide and I can't force her to love me again. The thing is, she didn't want me to leave just yet and she still says that she loves me.
I'm in a dilemma right now, if I decide to leave her because of what she did to me - only to find out that she IS STILL in love with me, that would be a great loss.
If I stick with her and hope that what she says is true - and ends up she went off with another guy, I would definitely be a stupid guy. Blinded by love.
I can't get a straight answer from her. She tend to keep it to herself and even says 'its for you to know and for you to find out'. Being stern won't help cos it would make matter worse ... I really hate this heartbreaking feeling rite now. I just wish it could disappear.
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