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writes:She needs space.?For the past few month's the missus has been convincing her self that I am having a fling. I AM NOT, and tried reassuring her as best I could. It got to the stage where she'd phone me at working asking if i were comming home at my normal time, she'd hide little messages in my pockets begging to to end my imagined fling. Anyway, Thursday morning a couple of weeks back now I went to work as normal, came home as normal to find that the missus and 3 kids had all left me. No notes or phone calls.Naturally i'm devastated, i'm sitting here weeping just writing this, but i'm also very angry that she has left me over her imaginings. I'm very confused, I just don't understand what's gone on, or how these silly ideas have gotten into her head.We have spoken once, and the kids have been emailing and visiting me. But the wife has her whole familly a consoling her over me having a fling that has never happened. Why am I feeling the guilty party when i've not done anything wrong?
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reader, Shawn_W  +, writes (26 January 2009):
Dave, you don't sound ready to give up yet, so don't. I'd suggest marriage counseling. Seriously. If nothing is going on, then you need to have an outlet such as that to get to the bottom of this. Having a counselor available to mediate things would probably help.
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reader, Dave_P +, writes (25 January 2009):
Dave_P is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel like a wrongly convicted man being forced to serve a sentence for a crime he never commited.
I have visited her familly, i wasn't invited in, and the wife met me on the door step with hatred in her eyes.
Wife is 39, i'm 42, our kids are 16, 17 & 21. We have been together 18 years, married for nearly 9 of those years, i don't know where her imaginings have come from but they are firmly lodged in her head.
I just don't understand it. How can she just up and leave, I'm a descent if slightly boring guy and i do the best i can. I've even re-morgaged the house a few times to ensure she and the kids get the things they want. I'm soo confused.
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