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writes:How can I overcome this desperation? I have been seeing a therapist after the last couple of years of dating (jerks) led me to this - long story short and since this is anonymous I can be honest. On the outside I'm a grown woman - I try to keep up with the looks the job the superficial stuff but inside I'm desperate for a relationship- it seems my cycle begins as soon as I meet a man - within a month I'm already planning things in my head - excusing red flags and sometimes what's seems BIG red flags and the "wrong way" signs are ignored because I feel like I want get this again.It seems like it's so hard to be in a relationship and I long for it so much that once I get there I do anything and everything even if it's the wrong person. I've tried dating sites - and anything and everything and I'm at the point where I realize I may need to work on this urge and obsession that might not even bring me happiness- does anyone have any tips? I realize that when I'm single it's long periods of times and I'm comlpletely open and rationall BUT as soon as I find a man I completely throw what I know out of the window! I become blinded!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2016): perhaps it might help you to locate some sites on the net about pimping!When you realise that some men pick women according to their vulnerabilty and potential mallabi!lty, then you will understand that you cannot afford to ignore red flags!You have to demand the behaviour you expect or you beconme prey to their need to destroy you mentally so that they can go on to exploit you and others!For example these kind of men need a partner they call their 'bottom!'This does not refer to their obssession with your sexy bum,but in fact means that you are the bottom rung on their ladder to betterment!They intend to exploit as many women as they can by being intensely loving to begin with ,followed by being intensely rejecting!It is entirely calculated so it is a waste of time wondering why?They present themselves as sophisticated and a good catch although their sole intention is to break your spirit, so that they can get money out of your services.They believe that all women are breakable because they have a gift for breaking people.They slowly invade your boundaries.When you understand there are men with this mentality you will learn to say no and stop being foolish in 'love!'
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (2 September 2016):
We have all being there blinded by need, romance and the four letter word that we try finding...LOVE...but remember not love with just anyone...but with someone Special,someone that is a right fit for you at all levels.What is the rush,you are a young woman,with everything going for you.So please stand back and view this in a logical fashion.Right now you are ..ENOUGH..for you.Enjoy being you .distract yourself by taking on a new interest,joining a new group.Remember you must be happy person within yourself,before you are ready to offer happiness to anyone else.Kind regards NORA B.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (1 September 2016):
 I think it is true that life keeps giving us a lesson until we finally learn it. Then we move on to the next. You will stay locked in this cycle until YOU decide enough is enough. There is no shame in this. We all get stuck at various times in life. Sooner or later the penny will drop and you will learn to be more choosy.
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