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female
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anonymous
writes:ok so im freely bisexual and have slept with as many women as i have men. One of my best (female and straight) friends lives with her partner and has been with him a year. Recently, we have been out on the town a few times and iv got quite drunk. she aint much of a drinker and so she definatly was not drunk (and iv confirmed with with my pregnant and very much sober friend!). anyway, we kind of kissed a couple of times but i put it down to me being drunk and her being a little tipsy. but latley she keeps txting me and telling me that she has problems, so when i ask her what kind of problems, she says 'minge' problems. she has also in the past told me that she is bi-curious. Im not sure if its me reading too much into things but im getting the vibes kind of like she wants to sleep with me or even be in a relationship with me. really not trying to be big headded but some of the things she says and does gives me that impression. just wondered what you would think?? because i really dont think its just a phase but its making me feel awquard because she knows i fancy the pants off her.... it just all feels proper complicated :s
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe definately wouldn't leave her bf, but id feel really awkward asking her because, i guess im afraid of what she might say. im not stupid, im pretty sure she is hinting to me that she fancies me but the thing is, it is hard for me to ask her outright because there is that small chance that i might be wrong.... i dont want to muck up our friendship but i cant help thinking about her. its so hard to explain without sounding stuck up but i know for a fact that she has something resembling feelings for me.... just dont know if its lust or you know.... just a phase :/
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 You need to talk to her when you are both sober and ask her straight out if she likes you as more than a friend. A lot of people are curious but you need to talk to her and see how she is feeling and what she wants because it would not be fair on you if she is just wanting to experiment because you may be the one that ends up getting hurt then. She needs to decide and chose what she wants.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 IF she is bi-curious (and many many folks are) she may be testing the waters with you...
it may not mean she wants or will have a relationship with you.
the issue is does her partner view female on female as cheating? IF he does then she needs to clear this with him. Either way she should not cheat on him with you..
If it was ME that was in your position (I'm bi) I would first
clear it with MY partner that he was ok with it (to be honest I've never had a male partner feel that female to female sexual contact was cheating.. a double standard I Know but it's a fact of life for some reason)
then I would talk to my friend while we were both sober (maybe a coffee date or something) and see if she's interested...
then tell her that you need to know from HER partner that he's ok with it... if she can't go there then I would not proceed further.
IF she does that and HE'S ok with it.. set something up.
and if it goes from there.. then you have to figure out what to do.
for me being bi means I want a primary relationship with a male partner but I like my ladies on the side...
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