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*elshloveangel
writes:my boyfriend has recently told me he needs a break. Does this mean he is goin to leave me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): no it doesnt mean hes going to leave you, it means he needs some space for a bit, say a month or soo. maybe its for the best if you two are having problems in your relationship.
he will take a break and then soon relaise he will miss youa and how much he lives youa nd come back. you need too talk to him and sort things out and ask him what he means by ''take a break''..
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (17 December 2007):
It's really hard to tell where your boyfriend's head is and i would suggest you talk to him more.Don't panic there's still a big chance that he'll come back but if he doesn't br strong and move on dear.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): I agree with Leanne. Sometimes a relationship or time in ones life, you think to yourself that you need your own space to work out what you want. There is nothing wrong with that and your boyfriend is being honest with you about needing that time. Please don't take it to heart. It is not about rejecting you it is about working out who he is and what he wants. Give him time to sort himself out without being needy and trying to hold on. If he choses to come back to you it will be as he has fully decided this is what he wants in his life right now.
Relationships do come and go at your age and it is a time in your life to to work out what, who and where you want to be and acheive.
Be a women that can be happy and together without the requirement of a boyfriend or a man. They will flock to you if your independent, focused, confident and moving on to new experiances and possible relationships. Maybe instead of focusing on what he wants to do, you can think about what you want too!
Don't panic, this happens, to all of us. At least he has been upfront and not just used you and cheated on you etc. He deserves a bit of respect for being honest about how he is feeling at the moment. He may well have his space and have time to think about how he feels about you and say he's had time to thing. But you cannot control what he wants to do, or if he stays or goes. You can only control how you handle it if he chooses to move on.
He must care about your feelings with his comment, but you carry on with your life and start to fill it with your, dreams, choices and your 'space' as well.
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reader, theothergirl  +, writes (16 December 2007):
Okay now, You need to talk to ur boyfriend because most of the time a break means: I am tired of you and I need to stay away from you. it could also mean that he needs about a week or two cuz he got too much going on. Make sure u know the true meaning from him. call him up or get with him so he can tell you what that really means.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (16 December 2007):
 it mean he needs time to clear his head and decide what he wants, it's his way of having ome breathing space. it is not your fault, some guys just need time to think about whether they are committed enough to continue a relationship or if they should be single. whatever the outcome, you should respect the desicion he made and the fact he has taken your feelings in to consideration by taking a time out instead of just finishing things without hesitation. don't pressure him otherwise you risk pushing him away, try to be positive and think of it as him needing to find himself again.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (16 December 2007):
hiya!
*virtual hug* aww hun! in most situations, when a guy says that to a girl he means he doesnt want to go out anymore.
have you recently had a fight or summing?
maybe he does want a break and time to think. ask him what he means. just say you mean split up. if he does mean split up then you can embaras him by putting it in the clear. if he says i need time to think, then fine let him have time. but dont let him use that excuse all the time.
hope this helps..
please fele free to mail me about anything else you wanna talk about.
lol
ellie
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): hi welshloveangel lots of people take breaks or ask for breaks in relationships it dosent always meain that they want to end the relationship just that there is obviously things going on with there selfs and they need to take time out to adress those issues the best thing you can do is to talk to your boyfreind and let him know you respect that he needs a break and let him know that altho you will give him his space you will be there if he needs you and if he needs to talk and let him know what ever decision or conclusion he comes to you will both beable to sit down and talk it through.
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