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writes:My wife and I of 4 years have had another blow out last friday, (it is now tuesday morning). The fight was about me switching batteries from our cell phones so I could have a fully charged one at work, but I forgot to turn my phone back on. She tried to call me, and of course couldn't so she sent me a pretty nasty text message. I haven't been the best husband in the world either. I have gotten caught up in a game called World of Warcraft and it made my family life suffer. She left and went to her mother's friday before I got home from work. We had several intense phone conversations and she said she was pretty sure she wanted to end things. Last Sunday her step father sat us both down and we agreed to not do anything for four days. She wouldn't speak to any attourneys, and I wouldn't call. The wait is pretty hard because I can't sleep, can't eat, and I still have to work. Lastnight at work we had a text message conversation about what my family thinks of this and what I have been doing wrong. Her mother reports that she has gone from not wanting to give it another chance to "I don't know". Her parents are both on the side of making things work with some marrage counseling. That is something I would very much like because I know I have anger problems and she has issues that she needs to deal with. Do you guys think she wants to work things out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): no matter if she wants to work it out or not. It is a question that only you and her can answer. Many people will give advice and most will be wrong. My advice is to change what you need to change and don't show her or tell her you are changing, let her see it for herself. Meanwhile, show her you need her, but not in a way that you can't live without her.
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reader, Cyd +, writes (31 March 2009):
I think you have to take small steps at this point, she is talking to you which is a good sign. You have to decide if you want to change and work things out to make both of you happy. If you change just to make her happy in the end you will end up angry and regret the changes. It is something both of you will need to work on together as a team.To show her that you are making an attempt, go ahead and go to counseling on your own make the first step.
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