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writes:question?why are good looking girls more like by guys then the plain looking girls.why are good looks and being slim and busty and young ,tall in height ,so important to guys why.i don,t understand why guys are so shallow and egoistic.that hurts a plain older girl feeling because she wasn,t born with these features if ant thing the complele opposite. well thats not fair.guys why so harsh on girl looks and age. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): the same reason why girls value rich, good looking guys. there is someone for everyone & you might feel unwanted but TRUST me there are guys out there who want you. learn to flirt & be captivating (other girls can teach you) AT LEAST girls can get guys - poor bad looking guys have it much TOUGHER than girls. anyway chin up & god bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): Growing up, me and one other friend of mine were considered the good looking ones. Now that we are 40, all the plain janes in our group have been married for years and mostly have pretty good marriages. I never planned on being single but most men have viewed me as sex material and not wife potential. I'm a flirt but not promiscuous and don't dress too revealing but I'm confident about myself so i've just accepted I'll probably end up alone, not everyone ends up with the picket fence. My other friend who is beautiful has wasted her 30's on a married man and has some issues from being used by a lot of men who ended up just wanting her for sex. She has a warped mentality that all men just are cheaters and want sex because that's all she attracted.
The point is, looks will initially attract a man but they certaintly won't keep one. Looks don't determine the quality of a relationship and being good looking carries its own problems including guys being shallow about you so not sure what you're complaining about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): Oh please... first of all, we women are just as shallow as men. I know women who won't consider a guy if he's not fit or rich or packing a 10-incher in his pants. So, let's not pretend we don't judge men as harshly as they judge us. Also, for all of your complaining about men who reject you, maybe there are a ton of guys who are interested in you but you're not giving them a glance because you're not attracted to them. Doesn't that make you just as shallow as the men you're putting down?
Second of all, men are attracted to confidence. I have seen some truly hideous women with some hot looking guys because those women knew how to play up their postives, downplay their negatives and were confident about themselves. And let me tell you, I'm not the kind of woman that society as a whole would consider "beautiful," but I certainly know I am and as a result, men are attracted.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 I do understand where the poster is coming from but it does her absolutely no good to sit around moping about it. That doesn't change the situation, just adds to the problem. If you don't like how your life is going then it's up to to you to do something about it. Instead of dwelling on herself, maybe she should do some volunteer work with the homeless, or the local hospice, there's always someone who is worse off than you are, might help put things in perspective.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 March 2009):
What you said is correct, Satin, except for Labrador Retrievers, they do anything with 4 legs. That's why everyone with a mutt says it's a boxer-lab mix, cocker-lab mix, german shepherd-lab mix, chihuahua-lab mix......
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 March 2009):
So what's you point? Good looking girls have attracted men since the dawn of time. Do what Emily suggests or stay home and wallow in your self pity. Look at all the successful, impressive, and yes, happy women from day one till now and tell me they were all gorgeous...Ha! Quit the pity party and do something with the life that was given you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): i can,t deal shallow males i just can,t.i don,t have confidence and happiness to go after because i always end up rejected thats a scientific fact.good looking girls have million times easier.they can have who ever they set there eyes older,younger guy good looking,plain,skinny,heavy,tall.short,brunette, blond ,red hair guys who are eye candy and great looking guys with nice smile and tall,geuine theres guys want stunning looking girls like models.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 March 2009):
It's just the way of the world that men will be attracted to attractive girls.
BUT you have to remember that all men find DIFFERENT things attractive.
In my view all women are beautiful in one way or another. You just have to work with what you have. Take a good look at yourself and if you think you have nice eyes then wear a colour eye shadow that brings them out. If you have curves then wear a thick tight brightly coloured belt over a black top and that will make the most of you. If you are more boy shaped then you can wear halter necks and all kinds of things.
Do something great with your hair like a new colour and style.
If you want a man then go for it. Confidence and happiness are the most attractive things so smile and see what happens.
Good Luck!! xx
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