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writes:Okay... Well first off I need help and want to know if a Certain teacher likes me. Let's call him Mr.B. Anyways I'm 16 junior and there's a teacher who I've known for quite a while I've had him for 2 years and ive known him since I was in 6th grade. He was also my track coach. It started off when he would smile and stare at me. Then during class he would ask me to do him favors, go to his car, get something, warm up his coffee, ect. Then someone started a rumor saying that I liked him. Which wasn't true at all, I just though he was cute nothing else. Then he would go to my cross country meets and basketball games and watch me and tell me how good I was. And he also kept a poem I had written from 2008. Which was kinda weird. He talked to me and said my smile is beautiful. He asked how my weekend was. He gave me hugs a few time. He even gave me a nickname. And he asked if i was gonna take his class the following year. I said no, because I don't want to have you for the 3rs year. And he made the sadest face ever. It was adorable, Then he would text me jokes and just say "haha" (by the way he had my number cause he was my coach) he would blush when people would say that I had like him. And they also called me Mrs.B which I absolutely hated. I visited him a few times. One time I saw him when I was running. It was around 9 pm. It was me, him and 3 other coaches. Well they all left and it ended up just being me and him I was waiting for my mom to pick me up. I thought he was leaving. But he walked back over to me and began talking to me askig how have I been. And it was really sweet that he waited with me, I don't know why he did though because I wasn't going to that school anymore he was no longer my teacher or anything like that.
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reader, Cheerqueen +, writes (6 October 2010):
Cheerqueen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, it's wrong but it feels so right.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Im not saying he will make a move. He might. But if he is flirting with you he has already made a few moves. Such as getting to talk to you alone. Hug you, sit next to you, give you compliments...
Ask yourself again, do you want to be involved with a man who flirts with his underage student? You do know that is illegal. It shows a lack of moral. Another thing is that you aren't really old enough to understand how grown-ups play. He could be manipulating you and you think you are in love.
You need to try and understand exactly why student/teacher relationships are illegal. Yes you are no longer his student, but if you understand the reason behind the law you will see that it matters little. Its about authority. As a young teenager/young adult, you are easily manipulated. Young people are attracted to authorities, because they symbolize strenght, wisdom, protection, and you feel honoured if they pay you attention. Maybe you don't recognize these feelings, and maybe you are actually in love with him for real and everything is genuine. But at your age you are not in a position to understand these things yet.
The law is there to protect you. To protect students from getting abused by their teachers, and to stop teachers and other authoratives (same reason boss and employee relationships aren't accepted either) from exploiting their position. The laws are there because authorative figures often have exploited their position, and taken advantage of teenagers.
In other words: until you are over the age of 18, don't even think about it.
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reader, Cheerqueen +, writes (6 October 2010):
Cheerqueen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo you're saying next time I see him, he might make a move on me? I'm kind of just lost because if he does I don't know what to do because like I said he is cute and I do have a crush on him.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (6 October 2010):
Yepp, you should ask yourself if you want to be associated with a man who flirts with a 16-year old. He is an adult. Adults don't make "friends" with young teens. In the case that they are related it is different, then they are brothers or cousins.
Imagine if a boy your age did these things. Would you think he was interested in you then? I think everyone in here would guess he might be. An adult, in my mind, has crossed the line when you even need to ask yourself this question. He might not have "done" anything yet, but if you allowed him too I don't think he would object.
I think you should be careful and just stay away from him. Treat him the way you think is appropriate, like you would treat other older men who have been your teacher.
Just to put it this way: I've never hugged any teachers of mine, and students running errands for teachers I've never heard of except in the cases where the teacher is trying something....
If this is innocent then he must be dumb and ignorant of the social taboos.
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reader, Cheerqueen +, writes (5 October 2010):
Cheerqueen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. And yes he started making these moves when I was 14 but I've known him since I was 11 now I'm 16 in highschool no longer his student. He did hug me alot but I think it was just a friendly hug. And yes he asked me to run errand alot. Like I said warm up his coffee, at track meets get him a hot dog, get papers from his truck, ect. It was creepy in way when he would pull up a desk right next to me in the middle of class just to grade papers while I was doing my work. And when he would text me.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (5 October 2010):
It does sound like he has a thing for you, but not in a nice way. In a creepy way. You even said yourself you don't really like it, and it sounds like this is making you feel uncomfortable. Right there, when he has made you feel uncomfortable, is when he has stepped too far. Teachers should not tell tehir students things like "you have a beautiful smile", or give them hugs when its not a particular occasion (as in they hug all their students goodbye when they graduate or something), and they should certainly not single anyone out. He has singled you out, and did he hug just you or did he also hug the guys in your class?
I know someone (this was a boy with a female teacher) who's teacher also asked him to run errands for her and treat him special. She would keep certain types of schoolwork at her house even. And once she even felt him up, pretending it was an accident.
These things are unacceptable. Don't hang out with him any longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Totally agree with this fella below me. good luck.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 How old is this guy?
If he does like you (I cant really get a good idea of the picture because you will be biased) I am concerned about an older guy in an authoritative position being infatuated with a student..that sounds quite pervy to me, not romantic or sweet at all.
He could just be a good teacher and all these extra things that you are saying about him blushing etc you are imagining because that is what you want to see. And him asking you to do stuff for him; this may be because he trusts you more than some of the other students.
I have had nice teachers who would stay behind and talk to me or keep a piece of work because its very good because they are good people/teachers, not because they "fancy" me.
You've known him for 2 years? So since you were 14? If you think this guy does like you, you need to ask yourself the question; Do I want to be associated with a guy who flirts with 14 year olds?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 You could be friends with him, but, I would advise against any attempts of taking it any further than just friends. He is a teacher and you are an underaged girl if not a student. I suppose it would be alright when you are over 18 but for now, do not go further than pure friendship.
I hope that helps.
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