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writes:I've had strong feelings for one of my teachers for a long time...lets call him Mr.W and i didn't think he was even slightly interested in me but now i'm really not sure.Im 15 and he's 24, he teaches me Science. Since he started a couple of years ago, i've thought the world of him ive never met anyone so caring and considerate and i really felt i loved him. I'd had boyfriends before and none of them made me feel like this. I wasn't expecting anything to happen but a few months ago he started staring at me, of course i was over the moon but i thought it was strange. After class he asked if i would stay behind and of course i agreed. He said 'do you have a boyfriend?' and i said 'no', he smiled and said 'thats good'. We started talking more and he keeps making suggestive remarks. I had a detention with him the other day for not handing in homework but he wasn't at all angry in fact he seemed pleased. He asked me what i thought of him and of course i wasn't going to tell him the truth because i had no idea how he would react so i just said 'yeh i think your great', then he stroked my cheek and said he thought i was beautiful. I just laughed and shook it off. When i was leaving the detention he hugged me and whispered 'i love you' but maybe he was just joking. im really confused and i just want some advice yes i really like him but do you think he is just being nice? :S
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 No man in his right mind would act that way towards a 15 year old without having some serious issues, even if he's only joking. Not only is he nearly a decade older than you, but he's also your teacher and should know better, being the adult.
Men like him are only looking for one thing from girls your age. He probably knows you like him, and is trying to exploit that for his own benefit. Be careful around him in the future, and if he continues this behaviour, report it. Don't let how you feel about him prevent you from speaking up, at 24 he's fully aware that you're still at an impressionable and vulnerable age, and rather than do what's right and keep an appropriate amount of distance, he's feeding into it in order to take advantage of you. Don't let him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): I kinda find his behavior sorta creepy. love doesn't just HAPPEN and it doesn't come out of a person so randomly. There had to be some sort of base for love to keep its ground on. If he REALLY loved you, he would wait till you're 18 before doing all that stuff. And trust me I am NOT against student/teacher relationships, I just feel like what he's doing is more predatorial than loving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): Hi there,
He obviously has feelings for you. That is evident.
I agree with Supreeya, his behaviour is very innappropriate.
But if you think that you honestly have feelings for him and if he really does "care" about you, then wait until you've left school.
There are laws that need to be abided because there are severe consequences if not. You can still talk to him, laugh, joke. But be cautious and if anything happens know that it's at your expense- this could ruin your life and his.
I've been in a very similar situation to your own. VERY similar and it may not be advice you'll want to hear, but feel free to pm me if you need some more. I can share some of my own experience as well, it may shed some light on your own.
Just remember whatever happens is your decision. Your choice. :)
Goodluck
~tevote
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reader, Supreeya +, writes (11 September 2010):
here are some facts: 1) this man is your teacher. 2) as a teacher, this man has a responsibility to safeguard his students' interests.
his behaviour is very inappropriate and wrong. take this advice seriously, if he says or does anything else, especially when the teo of you are alone then you have to tell someone. a friend, or another teacher.
it doesnt like he likes you, it sounds like he could possibly be a sexual predetor who is interested in pre-adolecent girls.
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