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writes:This will the second marriage for the both of us. My fiance's parents, 85 year old father and 80 year old mother live in the same small town as my widowed aunt. My aunt was widowed 2 years ago. She is 89. Since being widowed my fiance's parent's have driven my aunt to see me a few times and taken her to restaurants as well to get out. In private my fiances father has told us the he wishes when he gets that age that he is still as active as my aunt and that she is sharp as a tack. He always says, always to us "every single time" we see his parents, "That my deceased Uncle sure knew what he was doing when he married her". He has seen a picture of her when she was younger and that she was attractive then and is now he told us in private. Recently at a gathering with my fiance's mother right there he smiled at my aunt and told my aunt to her face that he saw a picture of her when she was younger and about my uncle sure knowing what he was doing marrying her. His mother smiled at the remark so I don't know...his mother hears him say this all the time. My aunt is in great health and is alway busy doing things. My fiances' mother has health issues and isn't mobile and dependent of my fiance's father to help her walk. My fiance said I think my dad fancies your aunt. One time he repeated the same remark to us and my fiance said So have you dad, so have you meaning he knew what he was doing by marrying his mother so that his mother wouldn't get hurt but apparently that has not sunk in. My aunt is alone now and asked my fiance's father to come over and help her sort some of my uncles tools for her. I don't think my aunt has a clue as to all of this. By the way, all of these people are very sharp and have their minds. It's amazing and I only hope to be as sharp at that age as they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): Yeah, sounds like he likes your aunt a lot given that his wife is in bad health. I suppose seeing your spunky aunt that gets around and then comparing her to his wife that isn't well is putting questions in his mind.I would say that mentioning your aunt and that same line every single time that he sees the both of you can get old. Elderly people have a habit of repeating stories over and over and I think that is the case here.I wouldn't read too much into it. They are all adults. He is flirting with her. I'm sure your aunt can handle it. Just so your future father in law can handle his wife if he becomes too obsessed with her is what he should be thinking about.Young or old, men can do really stupid things when it comes to the female gender and then they find themselves in hot water with their spouse and wonder why.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 October 2012):
 so what's your concern?
He's not being sly or secretive and at 85 and 80 your future in laws have been together long enough that she knows her hubby is a flirt...
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