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female
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41-50,
*orning08
writes:we've got married for 5 years.i can say he is a good husband,he takes care of me and works so hard.but the problem is when we go out every time,he keeps looking at other women and really interested in them.he enjoys looking at them and talk to them(one day,he winked a beautiful girl in front of me).i've told him hundred of times that i do not like what he did,but he still can't control his behavior!he told me that he loves every type of women,but he won't have sex with them.i believe him,but i just can't understand why he desires other women after he told me that he loves me so much!i feel unhappy most of the time,he interests in any topic about women.i really want to have a serious conversation with him,but he always gives me the some answers:"don't think to much,i love you,you are too sensitive,i won't have sex with others,i just look at them..."i think he didn't face the problem.what he want,who he is?please tell me,thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Hes a MAN!!
You shouldent let this upset you this way. What you are complaining about is a natural male instinct!
Desire has nothing to do with love. I can say "I desire that man over there because hes sexually attractive" But that doesnt mean I love my boyfriend any less or am going to leave him! Desire is in all of us, but sexual desire some less than others.
Your husband is being honest with you by talking about it and doing it so openly, you must have a good relationship.
He doesnt consider this a serious issue which is why he doesnt want a serious conversation. He has given you his answer already.
He is never going to stop looking at women, because hes a red blooded man!
But think about it; If he didnt love you then why are you together?
You need to accept the fact that his behaviour is natural, even if you dont like it.
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