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writes:Hi 4 years ago a woman started work where I work, she had recently become single , we dated for a few months loads of people said we were the perfect couple , I got carried away with it all and fell for her, eventually I heard she was seeing her ex boyfriend, she went back to him , they apparently were alaways on and off. Understandably I was heartbroken , I still had too see her at work, a year or so later she left. About the same time she left , I started to see someone else, on hearing I was seeing someone else she started texting me again , sending the odd joke text (she had fallen out with her ex ...again !)but I carried on seeing my new girlfriend, 8 months later we fell out , she had a drink problem and would always start arguing with me, on hearing I had fallen out with my girlfriend , my ex said we should start seeing each other again, she told me she was totally over her ex now they dont see each other at all , they send the odd text now and thats it . I wasnt fully convinced of this and also once bitten twice shy, but she persisted , eventually we dated again, I stated to fall for her again, that was last may 2009, a month later I caught her with her ex, I was so annoyed with myself but couldnt finish it, she eventually finished it a week later. A month later I started to go out with someone much younger than me, weve been together 13 months , weve been away on holiday and generally have a good time together, she really loves me. In May this year my ex who had dumped me twice, started work with me again at the same company, she is not with her ex any more, he is now living with someone else, but they do still see each other, seeing her again has made me annoyed, I say "hi" when I see her nothing else, she doesnt even do that she just looks at the floor if she passes me by and says nothing. Its been just over a year now I was doing ok for the first 9 months till she started there again. My current girlfriend says im doing right by ackwloging her, but just to do that and nothing else. I feel like venting off to her, I wont do , I dont want her back but , to be fair she really didnt have to start there again where we work, she did tell me she liked working there when I was seeing her and if we ever did fall out that we could stay friends,I just wish she hadnt stated there again , I feel she's laughing at me still in a way, sorry if I sound stupid. Will I ever get over this feeling of bitterness towards my cheting ex, I forgave her once but to come back 3 years later and do it all again is difficult for me to get over enough to be right with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, to be honest I wouldnt really want to transfer, its like caving in plus I like everyone else where I work, so I wouldnt want to transfer just because I work with her.
I dont hate this woman, I do think that maybe its for the best we got together because now I know within myself if she were ever to try and contact me via text or any other way, I would ignore it, wherehas before when she text me , I would answer her ,I was on that proverbial piece of string she was dangling, I thought she may actually like me enough to want me one day, now I accept she doesnt so maybe something good is coming out of it all.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Cheat on me once shame on her, cheat on me twice shame on me.
You should've never taken her back the second time, a woman who is on and off with her ex is one to stay far away from. Once a cheater always a cheater in her case. Telling her off yeah it may feel good for a moment but it really doesn't solve anything it doesn't erase what she did. I hope you learned the lesson and don't mix business with pleasure, dating a co-worker is dangerous waters in the event that things go bad you're still faced with seeing them 5 days out of the week. The workplace air is so thick with tension you could slice it with a knife. One day you'll forgive her for what she's done but not anytime soon. Know that she's the past, and that you need to concentrate on your current girlfriend. Is it possible to submit a transfer?
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