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writes:Everyone keeps telling me my bf is not good for me but I find it hard to believe, or maybe its just I dont want to believe it. I think im in denial. Hes italian and stereotypically they are supposed ot be big family people which i think is a good thing. They also are suppose to treat women really well...he puts on this Mr perfect image, always talking about his high morals and values and how hes a strict catholic, but then he goes and puts pressure on me to have sex with him on our first date and hes still continuning to do that even though I told him i want to wait till im in love. hes even tried forcing his self on top of me. It was exstremely weird that he would do that in his bedroom, where we were surrounded by all these religous paintings on his wall and statues around his room! Hes introduced me to his whole family and we spend alot of time with them. If he doesnt open a door for me or pull my chair out his father gets angry at him for not being polite, so he always does things like that when his parents are around. Ive seen the way his father treats his mother and I envy that and wish i had that. I guess i think and hope things will be like that with me and my bf. Yet i feel he disrespects me because of the sex issue. I dont understand how he can do that yet claim he is a catholic and says that he doesnt beleive in casual sex with someone you arent commited too (how commited can you be after one date??). When I brought up the topic of a close friend of mine who had been used for sex by her ex bf, he said how wrong he thought that was and that its so wrong how a guy would just be in a realtionship for sex and put pressure on a girl for it...but isnt that what hes doing to me? so confused.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Now that he has decided to dumped you ,
it makes your job easier to leave without any regrets.
There are black sheep's in every religion.
Sorry you have got to go through all these.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou all for your replies!
It just so happens that he dumped me yesterday. His reason was he doesnt want a gf at this point in time.
Annalisa- Yeah I didnt think many catholics/italians these days would save themself for marriage, but you would assume that they wouldnt go around having casual sex though right? obviously not..ive heard stories about my now ex bf and how he has slept around.
Yes I think you are right, his parents would be so embarrased if they knew what he did to me. They were always telling him to do this and that for me and bla bla...making sure he treated me right. But yeah when his parents werent around, I guess he didnt see a need to continue that act.
Collaroy and Laura1318 - I think you two were right too, he was just using me for sex, although he never got any. I still find it hard to believe cause his family just seemed so perfect and just cant beleive he called himself a strict catholic. Also i guess it doesnt help that my whole family grew up around italians and they adore them and think the world of them and think they are perfect, so i assumed he would be like that, when in fact he wasnt.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (16 April 2008):
He is just a religious hypocrite.
He pretends only in front of his parents but his true self
is what you see him when you are alone.
He has no scruples and only have outward manifestations of his religion.
He is without principles and a very dangerous animal.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Hi there,
oh boy what a jerk. He takes the cake this one. I have such a low opinion of people who make false pretences about their so called faith and how devout they are when in reality it is just a smokescreen which they use to prop up their lying cheating ways.
Look, understand this, he wants you for sex and sex only. The moment you have sex with him you then become unworthy as you have put out. He will demand a virgin for his bride but in the meantime he wants to have fun - you are it.
If you have any self respect tell him to get his jollies elsewhere and tell him you don't buy his bullshit faux religious morality.
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