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writes:I have a friend ,whom I know since last 4-5 yrs,me n his wife r really gud friend actually all of us (me n my hubby he and his wife)are really close friends .But 2 months back I was alone with him for beer ,then he lost his control once but some how he was ok after a while and i said to drop me home which he did(he could have done whatever he wanted as even i was in lil tipsy unable to resist much).After 2 days I met him just to make sure nobody come to know abt it as I don't wanted to spoil our friendship ,he said he is ashamed of it but I can see in his eyes he was not.We had a normal friendly talk we use to have earlier and before I leave he hugged me and said I am not even drunk and I also lost self control.We still meet but with our spouses as nobody knows abt it but we try to take some time out a just to hug each each other.Can anybody pls help me as I wanna know do he has some emotional involvement with me as I was going through very low phase when tht incidence happened ,and even after that he keeps in touch with me.Or it is just physical attraction.If he had HOTS for me then why it so long so do u think some emotion is also involved?Kindly help me I am loosing my sleeps,as I've fallen for him.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Sweetie, what you are doing is going to ruin your marriage and his marriage... your hubby and his wife would be devastated to find out whats happening. Maybe you should rather see this man when in the company of his wife or your husband. Stop now before you cause a lot of pain to everyone.
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 What are you DOING? You said that his wife is a good friend, but it doesn't sound to me as though it is a 2 way street.
How would you like it if your friend was doing this to you behind your back?
I am being blunt, not to be hurtful, but to mentally knock some sense into you.
Stop this thing with your friend's husband. OR both of you divorce your spouses to be together. Take your pick.
Take care.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 It's so easy to give into temptation when your drunk.....it was proberly all exciting at the moment in time until you both realised what was at stake. Alot of us get tempted when we have been with our partners for a while, and when something new and exciting comes along its hard to resist it, so he prob doesnt have emotional attachment to you, more having that feeling of when you first kiss someone! Meeting up on your own with him is not a good sign, unless your both wanting an affair which will break both marriages i suggest you keep your distance from him and the time you spend meeting him, meet with your husband instead or friends!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Honey!! You are going to lose a lot more than sleeps if you carry this on. You are having an emotional affair like the previous Aunt said, and it doesnt sound like it would take long for this to turn sexual, ask yourself "is this what you want".
You are both playing a very dangerous game, and no good will come of it.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 July 2008):
If you are meeting up just to hug then you are having an emotional affair with him.
You need to either leave your husband and him leave his wife so you can be together... or you need to stop seeing each other.
This is going to break hearts either way.
Good Luck!! xx
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