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writes:Well, ever since i was young (around 8-11) my parents told me to never have a girlfriend or they will kill me :/, my parents USED to abuse me physically and mentally.Anyway, i took this in mind, vowing myself to never go out with a girl.But when i went to high school, it all changed.I started having these mixed feelings for girls, but i ignored it.Through out 3 years girls have told me they liked me and i liked them to, even if they didn't ask i just knew they wanted me to ask them.But i couldn't, i just couldn't. I wanted to ask them so much! Is there something wrong with me?Why can't i bring myself to ask them?I'm scared i won't ever be able to have a relationship.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 July 2008):
Lots of people's parents tell them not to leave their rooms at night or a monster will come. So they get scared of the dark. Once they get older they discover that there are no monsters, and wander about at night as they please.
This is exactly the same thing. Some where deep in your mind, is that fear that BAD THINGS will come and get you if you do a certain thing. You need to try it and see what happens.
As soon as you ask a girl out once and go on a date and find out that you are still alive, this will all go away. Think of it like a parachute jump to get over a fear of heights.
Count to 3, think of England and ask a girl out to dinner / cinema. DO IT!!!!
Good Luck!! xx
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